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Is My Child A Monster? A Parenting Therapy PodcastAuthor: Leslie Cohen-Rubury
Is My Child A Monster? A brand new parenting therapy podcast. You get to be a fly on the wall in Leslie Cohen-Ruburys office and listen in as she sits with parents who share their stories in therapy sessions recorded live. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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How to Resolve Conflicts with Special Guest Dale Rubury
Episode 87
Tuesday, 17 June, 2025
Sibling Rivalry is a great opportunity to practice conflict resolution. In this episode we talk about the steps to help you resolve conflicts with your kids. But these same steps (easy to explain and difficult to practice) can be used with all relationships that experience conflicts. Leslie explains the steps to conflict resolution and highlights the one step that is often forgotten and without it can sabotage any attempts to resolve the conflicts. Leslie and her daughter Dale discuss these steps and apply it to real life experiencesTime Stamps2:12 Definition of conflict3:58 Four Steps of conflict resolution with the MISSING PIECEStop the actionState the problemGenerate solutionsPick a solution and move forward4:26 Five Steps of Conflict Resolution Stop the actionState the problemUse Empathy and perspective taking to get to the underlying concernsGenerate solutions Pick a solution and move forwardConflict resolution often fails when the empathy step is missing5:18 Using a childhood example to demonstrate these steps6:25 Step in to sibling rivalry only SOME of the time, not al of the time7:26 Don’t attempt to figure out who started. It is not effectiveStart with “I notice there is a problem here” not “Who started this”9:50 Getting Confirmation with a nod or saying yes is important to make sure someone feels heard and understood 10:12 Validation, active listening, reflective listening is absolutely necessary10:45 Use non-verbal, physical support when the other person is talking12:20 Empathy and validation is not condoning the behavior or agreeing with the other person's perspective 14:00 Have the child use “I Statement” so you avoid blaming language14:45 Generating solutions - engage the children - 18:10 Moving from Emotion mind to wise mind as you move through the steps. If emotions are too high, wait until another time to do the conflict resolution process20:15 When generating ideas make sure each child is taking responsibility for their part and coming up with solutions that they can change22:53 When is it most effective for parents to jump into conflict resolution? When the PARENT feels most capable of handling the conflict. 23:40 The infamous “Sink Story” 26:20 The Fair Fighting Fouls (see show notes for link)27:26 The parents' job is to teach it and model it - Leslie-ism: Conflict resolution begins with empathyResources:Fair Fighting Rules in a Pamphlet called Time Out: Resolving Family ConflictsOther conflict resolution resources for Kids at Peace Education FoundationFor a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie’s work on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and YouTube. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Camila Salazar, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Graphics and Website Design by
