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Sex Help for Smart PeopleAuthor: Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.
Mismatched libidos destroying your relationship? Dr. Laura Jurgens helps couples solve desire differences with proven methodseven when therapy fails. This intimacy coach and former professor helps couples navigate different sexual needs with research-based solutions that actually work. This isn't about forcing different sex drives to align. It's about understanding why you want different amounts of sex, learning to talk about it without fighting, and creating intimacy that works for both partners. Even if you're feeling rejected, lonely, guilty, broken, or ashamed for having needsyou're not. You're just missing the tools to bridge your desire discrepancy.Every episode delivers practical strategies you can use immediately: how to boost desire, communicate without defensiveness, understand different arousal types, and reconnect with your body so intimacy feels natural again. Whether traditional relationship counseling hasn't helped or you're avoiding couples therapy altogether, these approaches work for the intimacy issues that most therapists aren't trained to handle.Ready to stop the pursue-withdraw pattern that's creating distance and resentment? Get the science-backed roadmap to authentic connection that honors both partners' needs.No ads. Just proven advice that works.Disclosure: expect explicit content and swearing! Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Sexual Shame: Why We All Have It and How to Give It Back
Episode 117
Monday, 13 April, 2026
Most people carry sexual shame so quietly and for so long that it starts to feel like a character trait rather than something that was handed to them. It isn't. Every flavor of shame — about wanting too much, too little, taking too long, not taking long enough, about your body, your history, your desires, your "low libido" — came from somewhere specific. And that somewhere is not you.In this episode, I go through the full inventory of sexual shame I see in my somatic intimacy coaching practice, explain exactly where it came from (the culture, not your character), and go deeper into why shame lives in the body and nervous system — not just the mind — and what that means for how you actually release it. This is about a somatic, body-based approach to understanding and releasing sexual shame — and it goes where most intimacy advice, and even therapy, doesn't.In this episode, you'll learn:The most common sexual shames — about desire, low libido, body image, sexual anxiety, sexual confidence, and what it takes to orgasm — and why every single one makes complete sense given the culture we inheritedWhy shame is stored in the nervous system and body as implicit memory — and why thinking or talking your way out of it rarely worksWhat shame actually does behaviorally — why it makes you hide, avoid, and stay quiet, which is the opposite of what heals itWhy speaking your shame to someone who stays in full somatic connection with you is the most powerful antidote — and why that's so hard to find on your ownWhat somatic healing of sexual shame actually looks like in practice — and how it differs from traditional therapy or mindset workMy own shame story — the things I carried for years without knowing I was carrying them, and what shifted when I stopped trying to think my way through itThe culture handed you this shame. You don't have to keep carrying it — but getting free of it requires more than understanding it. This episode is where that starts.Send us Fan MailGet my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideFind out more about my offerings and read the blog: https://laurajurgens.com/Go to my calendar to book a consultation here. Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.
