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Sex Help for Smart PeopleAuthor: Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.
Mismatched libidos destroying your relationship? Dr. Laura Jurgens helps couples solve desire differences with proven methodseven when therapy fails. This intimacy coach and former professor helps couples navigate different sexual needs with research-based solutions that actually work. This isn't about forcing different sex drives to align. It's about understanding why you want different amounts of sex, learning to talk about it without fighting, and creating intimacy that works for both partners. Even if you're feeling rejected, lonely, guilty, broken, or ashamed for having needsyou're not. You're just missing the tools to bridge your desire discrepancy.Every episode delivers practical strategies you can use immediately: how to boost desire, communicate without defensiveness, understand different arousal types, and reconnect with your body so intimacy feels natural again. Whether traditional relationship counseling hasn't helped or you're avoiding couples therapy altogether, these approaches work for the intimacy issues that most therapists aren't trained to handle.Ready to stop the pursue-withdraw pattern that's creating distance and resentment? Get the science-backed roadmap to authentic connection that honors both partners' needs.No ads. Just proven advice that works.Disclosure: expect explicit content and swearing! Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 2: How to stay present during sex
Episode 104
Monday, 19 January, 2026
Part 1 in this series covered how ADHD affects desire. Now let's get practical.Mid-sex, suddenly thinking about work emails and grocery lists? Your partner can tell you're not fully there . . . and it doesn't feel great to you either. You're not a bad lover, your ADHD brain is just incredibly loud.This episode covers the most common in-the-moment challenges and what to do about them:Sensory needs: why some touches work and others don't, and how to communicate what your body needsTask-list brain: staying present instead of mentally composing tomorrow's to-do listNovelty, time blindness, and working memory: we'll discuss practical toolsThese aren't flaws to fix—they're features to work with. Your ADHD brain can experience incredible pleasure and connection when you understand what it needs.Start with one small tool. Small shifts make huge differences.Part 3 coming soon: medication effects, sleep issues, and how ADHD behaviors outside the bedroom kill desire inside it.Special Course Announcement: limited time, last enrollment: Thriving Together, Couples Healing Attachment Patterns Through TouchA Groundbreaking 6-Week Live Online Workshopwith Dr. Aline LaPierre & Dr. Laura Jurgens starts February 1, 2026https://neuroaffectivetouch.com/thriving-togetherGet my free guide: 5 Steps to Start Solving Desire Differences (Without Blame or Shame), A Practical Starting Point for Individuals and Couples, at https://laurajurgens.com/libido Find out more about me at https://laurajurgens.com/ Read The Desire Gap Blog at https://laurajurgens.com/the-desire-gap-blog/
