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The Iron TableAuthor: Bryant Goodine
The Iron Table is a forum where Black men can discuss topics from their perspective. Topics range from relationships, mental health, emotional health, life skills, social awareness, etc. As iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17), the idea is that men sharpen men. The sharpening can happen when men are willing to be transparent and proactive in addressing situations and circumstances that can tear us down when not handled. While this is geared toward men, the topics affect women and the family. As leaders of the home, we need to discuss issues that can be light on the surface but can reveal some profound truths in reality. There are many forums where comedy is used to skirt around issues, and while humor is good and needed, it can often be a crutch. The Iron Table is designed to be the platform on which men are forged into leaders in their homes and personal lives. The Iron Table is a place where the only thing fed is truth. Language: en-us Genres: Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Bad Advice We Believed About Marriage, Money, And Manhood
Episode 1
Tuesday, 20 January, 2026
What if the most repeated relationship advice is also the most misleading? We take a hard look at slogans like “happy wife, happy life” and explain why outsourcing your peace to someone else’s mood wrecks connection. Instead, we make the case that happiness is an inside job and that two healthy individuals create the conditions for a healthy relationship—not the other way around.We share how that plays out in real life, drawing on John Gottman’s research about perpetual problems and the power of repair, friendship, and honest conflict. No fairy tales here: many issues are manageable rather than solvable, and that’s okay when respect and skills are in place. We also push back on the pressure to “just get married,” especially when marriage is treated like a fix for pregnancy or conflict. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Clarity, feedback, and readiness beat rushing every time.Money and humility get a much-needed rethink too. We talk about unlearning the fear of ambition, why accurate self-knowledge isn’t bragging, and how financial stewardship supports families and communities. On faith and generosity, we call for storehouse practices that actually meet local needs—rent, groceries, light bills—so giving becomes visible care. And we close with the tools that keep us grounded: vulnerability as courage, being approachable to correction, turning off the noise when anxiety spikes, and choosing therapy and brotherhood to break old loops.If this conversation sparked something, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review to help more people find the Iron Table. What myth about love or life are you dropping this year?
