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The Guilt That Keeps You Trapped: Narcissism in Collectivist Families
Episode 395
Monday, 9 February, 2026
n this powerful and deeply validating episode of A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan, Dr. Foojan Zaine sits down with Agatha Peters, Nigerian-American psychotherapist, founder of Beautiful Sunshine Therapy, and author of Trapped in Their Script: Reclaim Your Life from Narcissistic Parents and Cultural Expectations. This conversation shines a light on the hidden emotional abuse experienced by adult children of narcissistic parents—especially within collectivist, immigrant, and African cultures, where family loyalty is often prioritized over individual mental health and emotional safety. Drawing from clinical expertise and lived experience, Agatha Peters breaks down what narcissistic personality disorder really is (and what it is not), how narcissistic parents cause long-term psychological harm, and why cultural expectations can make healing feel nearly impossible. Together, Dr. Foojan and Agatha explore how survivors can begin healing without completely abandoning their culture, identity, or family ties. If you struggle with people-pleasing, guilt, chronic self-doubt, emotional manipulation, or identity loss, this episode offers clarity, validation, and real therapeutic guidance. ⏱️ Clickable Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction & episode overview 01:19 – Meet Agatha Peters: psychotherapist, author, and survivor 03:00 – What narcissistic personality disorder really is (clinical perspective) 06:24 – Narcissistic parents vs. “self-centered” behavior 07:45 – Emotional abuse, gaslighting, and walking on eggshells 09:28 – Why children blame themselves and perform for approval 10:19 – Why narcissistic parents don’t seek therapy or change 10:22 – Agatha’s personal journey growing up with a narcissistic parent 12:10 – The first step to healing: accepting you can’t change them 13:20 – Gaslighting, reality confusion, and the power of journaling 14:41 – Living someone else’s life & never being “good enough” 15:58 – Separating your identity from your parent 16:14 – Cultural authoritarian parenting vs. narcissistic abuse 17:27 – Jealousy, competition, and never meeting expectations 18:12 – Perfectionism, achievement, and internalized shame 18:51 – About the book Trapped in Their Script 19:09 – Cultural expectations, loyalty, and immigrant family pressure 20:40 – Is healing possible? Hope, growth, and emotional freedom 21:24 – Choosing yourself without betraying your roots 22:25 – “Love is not supposed to hurt” 23:13 – Where to find Agatha Peters and her work 23:43 – Closing message & empowerment 🔍 Topics Covered in This Episode Narcissistic parents and emotional abuse Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) explained Adult children of narcissists Toxic family dynamics Gaslighting and psychological manipulation Cultural shame and collectivist cultures Immigrant family pressure Intergenerational trauma Identity loss and people-pleasing Healing childhood trauma through therapy Setting boundaries with narcissistic parents Reclaiming your authentic self 📘 Learn More About Agatha Peters 🌐 Website: https://beautifulsunshinetherapy.com 📖 Book: Trapped in Their Script: Reclaim Your Life from Narcissistic Parents and Cultural Expectations 📸 Instagram: @BeautifulSunshineTherapy If you’ve ever felt trapped between family loyalty and your mental health, this episode is for you. You are not broken. You are not selfish. And you are enough. 👉 Subscribe for more conversations on trauma healing, emotional wellness, and self-discovery. 💬 Comment below: What part of this conversation resonated with you most?
