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Science Backed Solutions for Childrens ADHD, Executive Functioning and Anxiety DysregulationIt's Gonna Be Ok! Author: Dr. Roseann Capanna Hodge
Are you tired of the daily battles, the problems with listening and focus, meltdowns over minor frustrations, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells in your own home? If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed, stuck in a cycle of reactivity, and utterly exhausted from trying to manage your child's challenging behaviors, you are not alone. You've tried everythingthe sticker charts, the timeouts, the endless negotiationsbut nothing creates lasting change. The answer isn't more discipline. The secret is understanding the brain. Welcome to Dysregulated Kids: Science-Backed Parenting Help, the podcast that is revolutionizing the way we parent. Hosted by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, a licensed therapist, school psychologist and author with over 30 years of experience in children's mental health and recognized by Forbes as a thought leader in children's mental health, this podcast is your lifeline. Dr. Roseann pulls back the curtain on why your child or teen is struggling, whether they have a clinical diagnosis like ADHD, Anxiety, Autism, OCD, Depression, Dyslexia, Executive Functioning challenges, Lyme, or PANS/PANDAS, or are simply navigating the ups and downs of everyday life.Her revolutionary Regulation First Parenting approach teaches that calming the nervous system is the first step before you can connect, teach, or help your child learn. In short, actionable episodes, Dr. Roseann gives you proven tools like the CALMS Protocol, quick nervous system reset tools and co-regulation strategies to move your child (and yourself!) from stress and reactivity to calm, connection, and resilience. You'll learn what to say and do to de-escalate meltdowns in the moment, how to build your child's emotional regulation skills, and how to improve their executive functioning and attention so they can succeed at home, at school, and in life. Imagine shifting your entire perspective from seeing "defiance" to understanding "dysregulation." Picture yourself feeling confident and equ Language: en Genres: Health & Fitness, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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367: The 4 Calming Phrases Parents Say Changed Everything
Episode 367
Wednesday, 24 December, 2025
When your child melts down, every parent feels that moment of panic—What do I say? How do I help them calm? In this episode, I break down the 4 Calming Phrases Parents Say Changed Everything and how these simple, rhythmic statements help a dysregulated brain return to safety and connection.Parenting a child whose emotions shift from zero to one hundred can feel overwhelming, but understanding what the brain needs in those tense moments changes everything. These phrases aren’t fluffy scripts. They’re co-regulation tools that speak directly to a child’s nervous system, reduce overwhelm, and open the door to emotional learning.This episode offers practical guidance on why these phrases work, how to use them during real-life meltdowns, and how parents can stay grounded even when their child is losing control.Why do calming phrases work better than lectures during meltdowns?When a child is in fight, flight, or freeze, they literally can’t hear you. Logical thinking and critical thinking skills shut down as survival mode takes over. That’s why telling a child to “calm down,” “stop crying,” or “use your words” never works in the red zone—no matter your parenting style.Calming phrases act as safety cues. They help create a shift because they:Support emotional regulation in both parent and childPrevent you from barking orders when you’re stressedSignal safety so a child can feel connected rather than overwhelmedMake space for real boundary setting and the ability to set limitsReduce the urge for people pleasing or power strugglesCreate the conditions where kids learn instead of shut downStrengthen the entire family dynamic through calm communicationThese cues slow the moment and tell your child’s brain, “You’re not in danger. You’re not alone.”And that’s when real connection—and real teaching—can finally happen.If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.What are the 4 calming phrases parents say changed everything?1. “I’m with you.”This phrase instantly grounds a child who feels scared, overwhelmed, or ashamed.It tells their nervous system they aren’t alone, which is essential for emotional regulation.A parent shared that after years of nightly homework battles, whispering “I’m with you” softened her child’s panic—and changed the emotional tone of their entire household.2. “Let’s slow down.”Kids borrow our rhythm. When you slow your voice, breath, and movements, their brain naturally syncs to your calm.Saying “Let’s slow down” teaches emotional pacing and helps them step out of survival mode and back into connection.3. “We’ll get through this.”Dysregulated kids often think the moment is catastrophic. This phrase restores perspective and safety.It teaches resilience—not avoidance—and shows your child that problems are temporary and manageable with support.4. “It’s okay to feel upset.”Validation lowers cortisol and reduces overwhelm.Instead of shutting emotions down, this phrase teaches kids that...
