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Navigating Social Media and AI with Kids
Episode 240
Tuesday, 20 January, 2026
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with award-winning author Jessica Spear about the critical challenges of social media and AI safety for teens and preteens. They discuss the irrefutable data showing how social media is negatively impacting youth mental health, the emerging concerns around AI companions and chatbots that teens are using for emotional support, and practical strategies parents can implement to protect their children. Jessica emphasizes the importance of ongoing conversations, coming from a place of curiosity rather than judgment, and creating family tech plans together. The discussion highlights that while technology offers benefits, current platforms lack adequate safety guardrails for young users, making parental engagement essential. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher introduces the podcast and welcomes guest, Jessica Spear, an award- winning author specializing in books for preteens and teens about friendships, safety, and technology use. 00:01:47: Jessica thanks Christopher for the introduction and expresses enthusiasm about tackling the important topic of social media and AI safety for young people. 00:01:56: Christopher praises Jessica's book "The Phone Book" and recommends it for every family with children who have smartphones. 00:02:03: Jessica explains that while her book is written for preteens and early teens, it's really for all families and encourages parents to read it alongside their children to facilitate conversations about navigating technology. 00:02:26: Christopher references Jonathan Haidt's book "The Anxious Generation" and notes that global statistics show teens and preteens are suffering due to social media abuse, then asks Jessica what parents need to know to help children stay safe. 00:03:01: Jessica acknowledges the nerve-wracking nature of parenting in the tech age and emphasizes that helping kids navigate technology is one of the biggest parenting challenges today, requiring lots of conversations starting early and happening often. 00:04:18: Christopher notes that social media can be problematic even for adults, interfering with real life. 00:04:26: Jessica discusses how innovation has outpaced child protections in social media, mentions Meta's 2024 teen account safety features, and notes that a 2025 report found these features ineffective, emphasizing that parents must be aware these tools weren't built for kids. 00:05:52: Christopher transitions the discussion to artificial intelligence as another challenge, asking what's happening with AI use among teens and preteens. 00:06:18: Jessica reports that 70% of teens have used AI and 50% use it regularly, primarily for fun, entertainment, schoolwork, and concerning companionship, noting that AI companions validate rather than challenge unhealthy thinking patterns. 00:08:05: Christopher asks Jessica to repeat what research shows children are doing with AI that is concerning. 00:08:20: Jessica explains that while curiosity-based AI use is fairly safe, the problem arises when kids seek emotional support from AI, which is not built for kids and cannot provide safe counseling, mentioning a lawsuit where parents claim their son committed suicide due to bad advice from ChatGPT. 00:09:43: Christopher summarizes that teens are creating artificial companions that appear as people on screen, creating asynchronous relationships that compound the challenges already present with social media. 00:10:22: Jessica discusses potential guardrails, mentioning ChatGPT's announcement to create age-based content filtering, but expresses skepticism based on Meta's failed guardrails, and emphasizes that parents keeping conversations going and testing technologies themselves is the safer approach. 00:11:50: Christopher summarizes that parents and mentors need to be engaged with children, maintain trust relationships, and help guide wise choices given that companies profit from children's attention. 00:12:39: Christopher asserts that no artificial intelligent therapist can replace a loving, caring, wise, experienced parent. 00:12:51: Jessica asks if the.re's anything else to share about AI, social media, and resources for parents, coaches, mentors, and teachers. 00:13:04: Jessica recommends "The Anxious Generation" and "The Phone Book," encourages parents to stay calm and authentic in conversations, and suggests families create tech plans together that outline screen-free times and appropriate technology use. 00:14:34: Christopher lists Jessica's books and asks where guests can find her online. 00:14:54: Jessica provides her website (jessicaspeer.com) and mentions her free e-newsletter, inviting people to reach out with questions. 00:15:11: Christopher concludes the podcast by thanking Famlis for support, encouraging subscriptions and reviews, and sharing the mission of making the world happier one parent-child relationship at a time. Key Takeaways Social media platforms currently lack effective safety guardrails for children and teens, despite recent attempts by companies like Meta to implement protective features. 70% of teens have used AI and 50% use it regularly, with concerning trends showing kids seeking emotional-support from AI companions that validate rather than challenge unhealthy thinking. Parents should approach technology conversations from a place of curiosity rather than judgment to keep communication channels open with their children. Creating a family tech plan together that establishes screen-free times and appropriate usage guidelines is an effective strategy for managing technology in the home. Parental engagement, trust-building, and ongoing conversations are essential since technology companies profit from children's attention and innovation has outpaced child safety protections. AI chatbots and companions are not safe substitutes for trained counselors or trusted adults when children face emotional challenges. Parents should test technologies themselves and have children demonstrate what they're doing online to better understand and guide their digital activities. Quotable Moments "Helping kids navigate tech is the new challenge in parenting. It's really one of the biggest challenges that parents face these days." - Jessica Spear "The innovation has flowed much faster than protections for kids, especially when it comes to social media." - Jessica Spear "We're still in a world where those tools were not built for kids. They are not very safe." - Jessica Spear "AI now really just kind of validates and supports those [unhealthy thoughts]. So that's where there brings some concern when kids are using AI for some emotional support." - Jessica Spear "No artificial intelligent therapist can really take the place of a loving, caring, wise, experienced parent." - Christopher Robbins "If we're coming from a place of curiosity and wanting to learn, they're less likely to shut down 'cause they're afraid they're gonna get in trouble." - Jessica Spear "As much as we can staying open to hearing their side of things and putting together a plan together, I encourage families to come up with a family tech plan." - Jessica Spear
