 |
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
Listen Now...
Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?
Episode 336
Monday, 8 June, 2026
This episode (336) explores the painful and complicated reality of a young betrayed partner who is trying to recover from betrayal trauma while also carrying childhood trauma and her own history with porn/sex addiction. We begin by validating the sheer complexity of her situation and making clear that she is not crazy, cursed, or hopelessly broken. When betrayal trauma, early trauma, and addiction collide, each one can intensify the others, making the internal experience feel overwhelming and chaotic. At the same time, we explain that these are not necessarily three unrelated problems requiring three separate full-time recoveries. Instead, they are often connected parts of one larger system that needs an integrated healing plan.A central message of the article is that trauma and addiction cannot be treated only at the level of symptoms. Betrayal trauma responses are often attempts to find safety, truth, and protection from further harm. Childhood trauma responses may be old survival strategies that once helped a person endure neglect, abuse, or instability. Addiction often develops as a way to numb, escape, regulate, or cope with overwhelming emotional pain. Using the lens of Internal Family Systems, we describe how wounded parts and protective parts can drive behaviors that may look irrational, destructive, or confusing on the surface, but actually have a deeper protective logic underneath. Reasons are never excuses, but understanding those reasons gives individuals and couples a better map for healing.The article also emphasizes that this partner’s own addiction does not cancel out her betrayal pain, and her betrayal trauma does not excuse her own addictive behaviors. Both realities must be held together with honesty, compassion, accountability, and boundaries. We encourage her to begin not by trying to fix everything at once, but by stabilizing her nervous system, building support outside the relationship, stopping ongoing harm, and creating a paced recovery plan. If the relationship itself is constantly destabilizing, a structured break or carefully defined boundaries may be helpful, but only with clear purpose, goals, support, and re-evaluation. Ultimately, the message is one of hope: this situation is complex, but not hopeless; layered, but not impossible; and genuine healing can begin one courageous, supported step at a time.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
