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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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What Does "Proactive Honesty" in Your Daily Life & Relationships Look Like?
Episode 316
Monday, 19 January, 2026
In this episode (#316) we focus on the critical role of proactive honesty in healing relationships impacted by addiction, betrayal, and trauma. Proactive honesty goes far beyond “not lying”—it means leading with truth rather than waiting to be confronted, asked the right question, or forced into disclosure. When honesty becomes reactive instead of proactive, trust erodes, emotional safety collapses, and partners lose the ability to make informed choices. We emphasize that honesty struggles are not limited to addicts; partners can also drift into dishonesty through self-silencing, conflict avoidance, or fear of toxic reactions.We examine the many reasons honesty breaks down, including fear of conflict, shame, habitual deception, emotional dysregulation, and attempts to manage or control others’ perceptions. While these patterns may be understandable survival strategies, they are never harmless. Dishonesty—whether through outright lies, partial truths, minimization, or “everything’s fine” responses—undermines accountability, intimacy, and recovery. We explain why clarity equals respect, why intent does not erase impact, and how avoiding the full truth often creates repeated betrayals rather than preventing harm.Finally, we outline what practicing proactive honesty actually looks like: catching dishonesty early, naming wrongs clearly, telling the whole truth, acknowledging impact without defensiveness, expressing accountability without shame, backing words with measurable actions, and allowing the other person’s response without trying to control it. We also stress the importance of choosing appropriate environments for difficult conversations—without using that as an excuse to deceive. Proactive honesty is uncomfortable and challenging, but it is essential for rebuilding trust, restoring integrity, and creating relationships rooted in safety, authenticity, and real connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: What Does "Proactive Honesty" in Your Daily Life & Relationships Look Like?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
