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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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When Betrayal is Confessed, What are Healthy Boundaries for the Partner & Addict?
Episode 319
Monday, 9 February, 2026
When betrayal is confessed, both partners are immediately forced into territory they never chose. In this episode (#319), we address a powerful submission from a man whose pornography use and delayed disclosure led to the end of a serious relationship. We unpack why betrayal permanently changes a relationship’s landscape and why healthy boundaries for the betrayed partner begin with space, agency, and the right to decide what future—if any—feels authentic. Boundaries are not punishments; they are acts of self-protection and clarity in the wake of shattered trust. We also address a critical but often misunderstood issue: waiting for the “right time” to tell the truth. While many addicts believe delayed honesty is protective, we explain how it actually constitutes integrity abuse and creates layered, complex trauma for the partner. By managing the timing and flow of truth, the addict unintentionally manipulates the relationship and deprives the partner of informed consent. We emphasize that honesty at all costs is not about guaranteeing forgiveness—it is about preserving reality, which is the foundation of any healthy boundary. Finally, we turn to the addict’s side of the boundary equation. Addicts do not get to set boundaries on betrayed partners—but they must establish uncompromising internal boundaries around truth, transparency, and integrity. We discuss what it means to continue recovery when honesty leads to rejection, and why authentic change must eventually be internally motivated rather than driven by fear of loss. Even when a relationship ends, living honestly prepares an addict to become a healthier partner in the future and prevents repeating the same cycle of deception and harm.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: When Betrayal is Confessed, What are Healthy Boundaries for the Partner & Addioct?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
