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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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We Want a Family, But He Just Disclosed His Porn Addiction—Now What?
Episode 329
Monday, 20 April, 2026
In this episode (329), Mark and Steve address a submission from a betrayed wife whose husband has recently disclosed a porn addiction just as they were preparing to start a family. They acknowledge the immense emotional tension she is carrying: she deeply loves her husband, wants to support him, and has always dreamed of becoming a mother, yet now feels shattered by betrayal, comparison, insecurity, and fear about what pregnancy and parenthood would mean in the middle of such instability. They honor her sincerity and loyalty while also making it clear that her pain is real and that she is not overreacting by wanting to slow everything down.A major theme of the episode is that the husband’s recovery and the wife’s healing are not the same process. The speakers caution against the common mistake of focusing entirely on the addict’s struggle while minimizing the partner’s trauma. They explain that there is no clean finish line called “fully recovered,” and that healing is not about returning to life as it was before disclosure, but about moving through the grief, loss, and transformation this crisis has brought into the marriage. They stress that she must not abandon her own needs, boundaries, and healing in order to carry him, and that both individuals need qualified support, separate healing work, and a stronger relational framework built on truth.Mark and Steve are especially emphatic that this couple should not rush into having children. They explain that children do not fix instability—they magnify it—and that parenthood should never be treated as the automatic next step in a fragile, newly destabilized marriage. Instead, they recommend a deliberate pause on major life decisions, intensive recovery and betrayal-trauma support, clear stability markers, and a long-term pattern of proactive honesty, accountability, and emotional regulation. Their message is ultimately hopeful: the marriage is not doomed, and a healthy future family may still be possible, but only if it is built on a new foundation of transparency, healing, and integrity rather than on pressure, denial, or haste.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: We Want a Family, But He Just Disclosed His Porn Addiction—Now What?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
