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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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What to Do When an Addict Uses Recovery to Avoid Caring About His Partner?
Episode 337
Monday, 15 June, 2026
This episode (#337) addresses the painful experience of a betrayed partner whose husband claims he is “in recovery” after a relapse, but continues to severely lack empathy, respond defensively, withdraw emotionally, and use recovery language as an excuse to avoid caring about her pain. We make it clear that asking about his recovery, needing reassurance, and wanting emotional support are not “games” or unreasonable demands; they are baseline needs in a coupleship damaged by betrayal. When an addict listens to podcasts, finds a therapist, or checks recovery boxes but still refuses to become emotionally present and accountable, he may be doing recovery activities without actually becoming a recovering man.We also explore how recovery principles can be weaponized when an addict hides behind phrases like “everyone has their own healing journey” or “my recovery is my side of the street.” While it is true that each person must own their own healing, that truth cannot become an excuse for emotional abandonment. Healthy boundaries should serve authentic growth and relational safety, not comfort, secrecy, avoidance, or shame-based self-protection. For addicts, genuine recovery means learning to sit with their partner’s pain without defending, blaming, minimizing, withdrawing, or making their own shame the center of the room.For betrayed partners, the hard reality is that they cannot make the addict change, drink from the “water trough” of empathy, or become the man he needs to become. What they can do is find and use their voice, clearly communicate the impact of his choices, define their safety needs and limits, build an outside support system, and honestly evaluate whether his pace and depth of change are compatible with their own healing. The partner’s life cannot remain parked at the station indefinitely while she waits for him to decide whether he will become safe. She can love him, invite him into real recovery, and keep him informed about where the relationship stands, but she must also keep moving toward her own peace, dignity, healing, and wholeness.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: What to Do When an Addict Uses Recovery to Avoid Caring About His Partner?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
