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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Can "Just Looking" Destroy a Marriage: Understanding Visual Sexual Addiction
Episode 318
Tuesday, 3 February, 2026
In this episode (#318), we respond to a deeply painful and thought-provoking submission from a partner married for fifteen years who discovered her husband’s long-standing pattern of visual sexual behaviors. While he insists he rarely masturbated, his compulsive scanning, voyeurism, and objectification left her questioning whether “just looking” could really constitute addiction—and why it felt so devastating. We outline how repeated denial, trickle-truth, and gaslighting created not only sexual betrayal but integrity abuse, leading to severe betrayal trauma marked by hypervigilance, loss of identity, shame, and emotional exhaustion.We then break down why addiction is not defined by orgasm alone. While climax powerfully reinforces behavior, sexual addiction is fueled by much more: anticipation, novelty, entitlement, secrecy, and emotional escape. Visual sexual behaviors can flood the brain with addictive neurochemicals long before orgasm ever occurs, training the brain to seek stimulation without intimacy. We explain how scanning and objectification allow addicts to bypass vulnerability while still receiving powerful neurological rewards, and how edging and prolonged preoccupation can become addictive in their own right.Finally, we address why visual sexual addiction often hurts partners more than masturbation. For many partners, “just looking” feels deeply personal—it involves comparison, preference, and emotional pursuit, not just physical release. We emphasize the vital distinction between sobriety and recovery, the necessity of full honesty through formal disclosure, and the importance of dismantling sexual entitlement rather than merely abstaining from behaviors. True healing, we conclude, requires integrity, empathy, and an intentional choice to move out of addiction and fully into relationship.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Can "Just Looking" Destroy a Marriage: Understanding Visual Sexual AddictionLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
