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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts PBSEAuthor: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addictionwe get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addictwe KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!
Episode 349
Monday, 7 September, 2026
(Episode 349) Relapse in pornography or sex addiction absolutely matters, but it is often not the most fundamental threat to a relationship. The deeper crisis is what happens when relapse is followed by secrecy, lying, minimizing, withholding, or manipulation of the betrayed partner’s reality. Addiction thrives in secrecy and avoidance, which is why genuine recovery must involve much more than simply stopping pornography, masturbation, or other acting-out behaviors. Sobriety without honesty can become little more than compliance or performance. Real recovery requires increasing alignment between a person’s internal life, stated values, words, and actions—in other words, integrity.There is an enormous difference between a relapse that an addict voluntarily discloses and one that a betrayed partner is forced to uncover. In both cases the sexual behavior may be the same, but in the first, the addict is practicing recovery by choosing truth over secrecy, taking responsibility, using his support system, and allowing his partner access to reality. In the second, the old addictive system remains active: hide, minimize, avoid consequences, and wait to see whether she discovers the truth. When this happens repeatedly, the betrayed partner is forced into the exhausting role of detective and becomes increasingly hypervigilant because experience has taught her that if she does not investigate, she may not know what is actually happening.For trust to rebuild, the addict must increasingly become the person who proactively brings reality into the relationship rather than waiting to be questioned or caught. Internal motivation becomes visible when he tells the truth even when it is uncomfortable, seeks recovery because it reflects the man he wants to become, and stops trying to control his partner’s choices by controlling the information she receives. Betrayed partners do not have to offer unlimited chances, particularly when honesty has been clearly communicated as a critical boundary. Ultimately, meaningful recovery is not simply learning how to stop acting out; it is learning how to live known—moving from secrecy to transparency, image management to accountability, compartmentalization to integrity, and manipulation of reality to genuine connection.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
