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Selfish ParentingAuthor: Chance' Hindir-Lane
Welcome to Selfish Parenting - where we flip the script on everything society tells you about being a "good parent."I'm Chance Hinder-Lane (@hindirlane), and I'm here to tell you that what society calls selfish, we call sustainable parenting.Tired of the guilt? Done with the burnout culture? Ready to stop people-pleasing your way through parenthood? You're in the right place.This isn't your typical parenting podcast filled with shoulds and shouldn'ts. We're here to give you permission to: Hire help without guilt Prioritize your career AND your kids Say no to activities that drain you Invest in your mental health and identity Maintain adult relationships and interests Spend money on yourself Set boundaries that actually workEvery episode, we dive deep into the "selfish" behaviors that research shows actually make you a better parent. From working mothers to stay-at-home parents demanding respect, from therapy to solo vacations - we're covering it all with science, sass, and zero shame.Because here's the truth: Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.New episodes drop every Monday at 7am Follow @hindirlane for daily doses of sustainable parenting content Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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8. 45% of Women Will Be Single by 2030 | How to Know If You’re Actually Ready for Marriage and Motherhood
Episode 8
Monday, 9 February, 2026
A lot of people treat marriage and motherhood like deadlines you’re supposed to hit. In this episode, I break down how I think about readiness, not as a timeline, but as an intentional choice that should add to your life, not shrink it. I share what actually mattered to me before getting married, from choosing an exceptional partner to knowing who I was outside of a relationship and being able to financially support myself. Then we get into what real readiness for kids looks like: the costs people don’t talk about, the emotional work that shows up in postpartum and parenting triggers, and the reality that choosing to have children is a lifelong commitment. If you’re going to choose marriage or motherhood, this episode is about choosing it on purpose… not out of pressure, fear, or expectation.Resources mentioned:Rise of the SHEconomy - Morgan Stanley ResearchHealth fertility and age-related pregnancy data - UCSF Facility ResearchQuestions to Ask Yourself Before Marriage or Motherhood:If your partner never changes, same job, same mindset, same habits, would you still want to be with them?Can you financially support yourself without relying on a partner?Do you know who you are outside of a relationship or motherhood?Have you lived independently enough to know what you actually want (living alone, traveling alone, dating different people)?What would you realistically have to sacrifice or give up if you had children?Have you addressed your own childhood trauma and personal triggers?Are you choosing marriage or kids because you truly want them? Or because of fear or societal pressure?Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok
