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The Divorced Dadvocate: Divorce Support For DadsAuthor: Jude Sandvall
The Divorced Dadvocate: Divorce Support For Dads is a weekly podcast designed specifically for fathers navigating divorce. It addresses the unique challenges men face and offers practical guidance, emotional support, and real-life insights to help dads survive and ultimately thrive during and after divorce.Each episode combines honest conversation, personal stories, and action-oriented advice to help listeners rebuild confidence, create healthy co-parenting strategies, manage finances, navigate court complexities, and heal emotionally. Since launching in 2020, the show has become a trusted resource and supportive community for divorced and divorcing dads.*Become a community member and access full episodes and additional MEMBERS ONLY content: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/* DISCLAIMER: The purpose of this podcast is to inform, not influence. It is not a substitute for professional care or advice by a qualified professional. The host, as well as guests who speak on this podcast, express their own opinions, experience, and conclusions, and The Divorced Dadvocate podcast & website neither endorses nor opposes any particular views discussed here. Language: en-us Genres: Education, Kids & Family, Parenting, Self-Improvement Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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295 - Amicable Is Not A Strategy, It’s A Setup
Episode 295
Monday, 16 February, 2026
The custody battle isn’t decided by a gavel—it’s decided in the quiet hours between court dates. We break down the decision gap, the stretch of weeks where messages, handoffs, and “temporary” deals stack into the patterns a judge will actually see. If you’ve ever fired off a heated text, argued on a porch during pickup, or let a holiday slide without a makeup day, you’ve felt the drift: the slow erosion of paternal authority that turns well‑meaning compromises into a new status quo.We pull back the curtain on how family court rewards preparation, pattern, and restraint—not sentiment—and show you how to build a defensible record of being the steady parent. You’ll hear a composite case of “Mark,” a devoted dad who moved out to “lower the temperature” and months later faced an attorney arguing his limited time proved lack of involvement. From there, we walk through practical tools: BIFF communication to avoid traps, a command center for logging exchanges and decisions, and a clear method to grant flexibility only with documented reciprocity.Expect specific plays you can run today: set up a dedicated communication channel that time‑stamps every message, pre‑write calm responses for predictable provocations, document holiday swaps with equal makeup time, and push for temporary orders that reflect true involvement. We also talk about the power of community—learning from dads who’ve already navigated these pitfalls—and why shifting from hope to an operational end state is the move that protects your role for the long haul. Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com.Access your tactical tools:Risk Assessment: Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Protection Session: Book a private triage to ensure mistakes don’t become permanent.Your kids are counting on you. Support the show
