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Dads Dating After DivorceAuthor: Jude Sandvall / Dallas Bluth
Dating after divorce isnt what it used to beespecially when youre a dad. The rules have changed, the world has changed, and now youve got kids in the mix. Join Dallas and Jude as they share real-world strategies and insights from their work with dads and men at BlackBoxDating.com and TheDivorcedDadvocate.com. Language: en-us Genres: Education, Health & Fitness, Self-Improvement, Sexuality Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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29 - Choosing One Woman: How to Avoid the "Nice Guy" Commitment Trap
Episode 29
Tuesday, 6 January, 2026
The jump from casual dates to a committed relationship after divorce isn’t about perfect timing or a clever script—it’s about self-leadership. We dig into how divorced dads can date with purpose, protect their finite resources, and choose exclusivity for the right reasons: depth, clarity, and real connection. Recreational dating has a place when you’re rebuilding, but it shouldn’t be a cover for avoiding intimacy or postponing your own growth. We talk through a practical one-year guideline—passing through all four seasons post-divorce—to establish a stable baseline with your kids, your work, and your routines so you’re not promising depth while your life is still in flux.From there, we get precise. Set sober criteria away from the high of the date: How physically drawn am I to her? How much do I enjoy her company? Could I see her in a long-term context, and one day near my kids? Lead by example before you label the relationship. When one woman stands out, reallocate your energy toward her without burdening her: better invitations, steadier presence, cleaner signals. Learn to read her responses—availability, warmth, follow-through—rather than pushing for a title. When exclusivity comes up, make it explicit and simple. Share your truth first: I stopped asking other women out because I like where this is going. Then pause and let her meet you there.We also unpack avoidant dynamics—when someone enjoys the perks but resists intimacy—and how to set boundaries without accusations by painting a clear, attractive vision of the connection you want. Exclusivity, done right, creates safety that opens emotional and sexual depth; it’s the space where you truly learn if this relationship belongs in your family’s future. Most of all, your leadership lives in the hours she’s not around: purpose, fitness, craft, and fatherhood. Build the man who doesn’t need exclusivity to feel whole, and commitment starts to feel like a celebration, not a cage. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a dad who needs it, and leave a review to help more men find the show.
