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The Motherlands PodcastAn archive of reflections on the nature of caregiving, the value of kinship & what it means to be human. Author: Keely Semler
The Motherlands Podcast explores the poetics of kinship, the politics of care, and the layered terrain of women's studies and reproductive health. Through intimate conversations, it reimagines caregiving as a personal, collective, and ecological practice. Each episode invites reflection, where storytelling becomes a vessel for presence, connection, and remembering. keelysemler.substack.com Language: en Genres: Alternative Health, Health & Fitness Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Demystifying the Mental Load with Paige Connell
Sunday, 7 December, 2025
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear the full conversation, visit keelysemler.substack.com.Today’s guest is Paige Connell, a working mother of four whose thoughtful online presence brings much needed honesty and clarity to conversations about contemporary family life. We explore the mental load, the unseen work of keeping a family running, and how it shapes our wellbeing, our relationships, and our sense of self. And importantly, the mental load isn’t limited to marriage or parenting; it shows up in all kinds of interpersonal relationships.We discuss how gender norms, the undervaluing of caregiving, and the “good mother” myth place disproportionate responsibility on women, often leading to loneliness, burnout, and tension in partnerships. We also examine the broader forces at play; rising childcare costs, the essential but invisible labor that makes paid work possible, the glamorization of trad wives on social media, and the need for stronger policies like affordable childcare and paid leave. In the extended interview, Paige gives her personal take on social media, both as an influencer and as a parent, and how she plans to navigate her own children’s exposure to it.This conversation looks at how making family life more equitable can strengthen the whole wellbeing of a household, improve the workplace, and shift the cultural expectations placed on women and families.Paige is a working mother who shares relatable content on TikTok and Instagram, highlighting the everyday experiences of women balancing motherhood, careers, and relationships. Known for her candid insights on the mental load of motherhood and the challenges of creating equity at home and work, Paige’s content resonates with millions. She also advocates for affordable childcare, paid leave, and reproductive rights, sparking important conversations about what families need to thrive. Her impactful voice and relatable storytelling have led to features in Scary Mommy, The Today Show, Good Morning America, and more.If you love the Motherlands Podcast, please help us keep it alive by becoming a paid subscriber at keelysemler.substack.com.2:26 Conversations for a fair life with your partner5:18 Mental load & the never ending to-do list8:27 Societal gender bias’ skew of the mental load12:09 How the lack of value placed on caregiving can shape identity & self-worth14:47 The good mother myth19:56 Loneliness and finding community in motherhood25:03 How the distribution of labor affects partnership & intimacy27:58 Therapy: the stigma for emotional unveiling for men30:22 Nobody can be at work without people providing care and labor at homeBehind Closed Doors Extended Interview for Paid Subscribers includes:33:43 The implications of rising childcare costs and monetizing care39:26 The vicious cycle and social media glamour fallacy of being a trad wife42:31 Social media literacy, drawbacks, possibilities, and algorithms47:28 How domestic labor impacts relationships of shared living50:26 Affordable childcare & paid leaveMOTHERLANDS Membership WaitlistConnect with Paige Connell:IGTiktokSubstackFree GuideWebsiteFollow The Motherlands PodcastYour support keeps The Motherlands alive. Paid subscriptions help me to keep doing this work full-time, offering real support to women through life’s biggest thresholds.Can’t subscribe right now? You can still– Leave a review on Apple Podcasts– Subscribe to Motherlands on Substack– Follow us on YouTube– Share an episode with a friend This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit keelysemler.substack.com/subscribe
