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Two Moms, One Dream: Real Talk About IUI, IVF from the Queer Lens
Episode 92
Tuesday, 11 November, 2025
In this heartfelt episode of Viva La Vulva, Dr. Cara Quant welcomes her wife and a queer couple who are close friends to share their deeply personal journeys through assisted reproductive technology. The conversation opens up the often-hidden world of intrauterine insemination (IUI) and in-vitro fertilization (IVF) for LGBTQ+ families, exploring the unique challenges and considerations that come with building a family when conception requires medical intervention. The guests candidly discuss the process of selecting a sperm donor—from deciding between known and anonymous donors to scrolling through profiles that reduce potential genetic contributors to a list of characteristics, medical histories, and childhood photos. They share the surreal experience of making such an intimate choice through what can feel like an oddly transactional process, while also discussing how they navigated conversations about genetic connection, identity, and what they hoped to pass on to their future children.The episode doesn't shy away from the practical realities that make family-building through IUI and IVF particularly challenging for queer couples. The group discusses the staggering financial burden of these procedures, which are often not covered by insurance and can quickly climb into the tens of thousands of dollars, creating barriers that make parenthood inaccessible for many LGBTQ+ individuals and couples. Beyond the financial stress, they open up about the emotional rollercoaster—the hope that builds with each cycle, the grief that comes with negative pregnancy tests, the toll that hormone treatments take on the body, and the strain that the process can place on relationships. Dr. Quant brings her medical expertise to help contextualize the physical aspects of treatment while her guests provide the raw, lived experience, creating a conversation that's both informative and deeply human. The episode ultimately celebrates the resilience, love, and determination that drive people through this challenging journey toward parenthood.Resources: Follow Viva La Vulva and Dr. Cara on IG: @vivalavulvala and @drcaraquantFollow guests:Eli Dominguez-Quant: @eli_domOT Bremond: @theeyogashawteeDr. Diandra "Dee" Bremond: @mlkofthenewday
