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Derate The HateAuthor: Wilk Wilkinson
Bettering the world one attitude at a time. We did not create the hate, but together, we can ! In a world filled with divisiveness, and dominated by F.O.G. (Fear, Outrage & Grievance), it's time we find a better way to engage. That all starts with each of us as individuals. We cannot control all that we encounter within our day to day lives, or the environment in which we live, but we certainly have the ability and responsibility to control how we react to it. For me, it starts with gratitude and personal accountability. Take a listen and see if there is something here to help you in taking your part in turning down the hate. Welcome to the ... Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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You're Listening, But Can They Tell? – DTH Episode 321 with Julia Minson
Episode 321
Wednesday, 24 June, 2026
Send Wilk a text with your feedback! (incoming msgs only - I can't reply) Julia Minson has spent 25 years studying disagreement—not how to win arguments, but how people actually engage with views that conflict with their own. She’s a Harvard professor, a behavioral scientist, and the author of How to Disagree Better. This conversation gets into the heart of her research.One of the most useful ideas in the episode: being receptive in your own head doesn’t count. Your counterpart can’t read your mind. If you want them to feel heard, you have to signal it out loud—with specific language, in real time. Julia’s HEAR framework (Hedging, Emphasizing agreement, Acknowledging, Reframing) gives you an actual tool to do that.We also get into why asking “why do you believe that” changes a conversation more than almost anything else—and why so much of the enmity in our society isn’t really about what people believe, but about what we assume their beliefs say about them.If you’ve ever walked away from a hard conversation feeling like the other person wasn’t really listening—or wondering if you were—this episode is worth your time. Julia’s book is How to Disagree Better, and you can find her at disagreeingbetter.com.Learn more about and connect with Julia Minson in the full show notes for this episode at www.DeratetheHate.com. The world is a better place if we are better people. Be grateful for all you’ve got. Make every day the day that you want it to be!Please follow the DTH podcast on:Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube, Substack Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our contact page: DerateTheHate.com/ContactThe Derate The Hate podcast is proudly produced in collaboration with Braver Angels — America’s largest grassroots, cross-partisan organization working toward civic renewal and bridging partisan divides. Learn more: BraverAngels.orgWelcome to the Derate The Hate Podcast!*The views expressed by Wilk, his guest hosts &/or guests on the Derate The Hate podcast are their own and should not be attributed to any organization they may otherwise be affiliated with.
