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How Not to Suck at Divorce Action Steps That Save You Money. Humor That Saves Your Sanity. Honesty That Helps You Heal. Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Before you spend thousands learning those lessons the hard way, check out our Divorce Crash Coursea 150 program available for just 50. It walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can protect your finances, avoid costly mistakes, and make smarter decisions from day one. Learn more: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go throughbut getting through it doesn't have to cost you your financial future, your peace of mind, or your sense of humor. Hosted by comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport and powerhouse family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill, How Not to Suck at Divorce helps you navigate life before, during, and after divorce with relatable conversations, practical legal insights, and honest discussions about the emotional side of starting over. Every episode is designed to help you avoid expensive mistakes, better understand the legal process, communicate more effectively, and make decisions you'll still feel good about years from now. Whether you're wondering if divorce is the right decision, in the middle of litigation, struggling with co-parenting, or rebuilding your life afterward, we're here to help you feel less aloneand a whole lot more prepared. Because divorce isn't just a legal process. It's an emotional one. And sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh, take one small step forward, and remember that you don't have to figure it all out by yourself. BEFORE DIVORCE Thinking about divorce? We'll help you prepare before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life. Learn how to protect yourself financially, emotionally, and legally before you ever file. DURING DIVORCE From custody and parenting plans to communication, negotiation, Language: en Genres: Kids & Family, Parenting, Relationships, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Divorce Anxiety: How to Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency...at 2am
Episode 240
Thursday, 13 August, 2026
Divorce Keeping You Up at Night? How to Stop the 2 A.M. SpiralDIVORCE CRASH COURSE: Divorce is expensive. Making avoidable mistakes makes it even more expensive. Our Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish every person had before and during divorce—from choosing an attorney and understanding your finances to custody, parenting agreements and the mistakes that can cost you thousands.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.[GET THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSE HERE]NEW: GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS: When your brain won't shut up about your divorce, we made something specifically for that. Our Guided Divorce Meditations are short, on-demand meditations for the moments divorce hits hardest—including when you can't sleep, you're worried about money or your kids, you're spiraling about your marriage, or you're struggling with a custody transition.[GET THE GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS HERE]If divorce is keeping you awake at night, you're definitely not alone.You go to bed exhausted, but the second everything gets quiet, your brain decides it's time to solve your entire divorce.What if my ex is hiding money? What if something happens with the kids? What does that email from my attorney mean? What if this goes to trial? Did I remember to send that document? Should I respond to that text? What if I can't afford this?Suddenly it's 2:34 a.m., you're wide awake, and you're trying to solve problems that probably cannot be solved from your bed.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are talking about divorce anxiety, insomnia and what to do when you can't stop thinking about your divorce at night.And we're giving you an actual strategy.Morgan explains how to separate the things that genuinely require action from the things that feel urgent because your anxious brain is filling in the blanks. Andrea shares why losing sleep during divorce can make an already difficult situation worse—and potentially affect the decisions you're making the next day.The goal isn't to pretend everything is fine.It's learning to recognize what needs your action—and what needs your inaction.In This Episode You'll LearnWhy divorce anxiety can feel so much worse at nightWhat to do when you wake up worrying about your divorceThe pen-and-paper strategy Morgan recommends for getting worries out of your headHow to determine whether something actually requires actionWhy you should think twice before emailing your divorce attorney late at nightHow to create a running list of questions for your attorneyWhy you should draft—but NOT send—emotional late-night emailsHow late-night texts and emails from your ex can destroy your sleepWhy setting communication boundaries with your co-parent mattersHow to use OurFamilyWizard notification settings more strategicallyWhy sometimes doing absolutely nothing is the smartest action you can takeWhat to tell yourself when your brain refuses to shut downWhy resting can be enough when you can't force yourself to fall asleepHow changing your environment may help break the cycle when you're lying awake spiralingThe 2 A.M. Divorce Brain DumpIf you wake up in the middle of the night and your brain is racing, Morgan recommends keeping a pen and paper next to your bed.Write down everything that's occupying your brain—not just the divorce stuff.Then go through the list and ask yourself:Can I actually take action on this tonight?Or:Do I have any control over the outcome of this tonight?If the answer is no, cross it out for tonight.If the answer is yes, decide whether it truly requires action immediately or whether you can make a plan to handle it tomorrow.Most things can wait until morning.And if it's something you want to discuss with your divorce attorney, write it down or put the email in your drafts. Do not hit send at 2 a.m.Your rested morning brain may have a very different—and considerably shorter—email to send.Stop Letting Your Ex Into Your BedroomNot literally. We have an entirely different podcast episode for that problem.We're talking about your phone.If your ex tends to send inflammatory texts, emails or co-parenting messages late at night, you do not have to allow those notifications to dictate when your nervous system goes into overdrive.Morgan recommends setting boundaries around when you receive and read messages. Andrea also points out that if you're using OurFamilyWizard, you can choose when you receive your daily notifications.Your ex's 10:30 p.m. message does not automatically become your 10:31 p.m. emergency.And it goes both ways.Don't send your ex angry late-night messages either. Aside from destroying everyone's sleep, creating a documented pattern of bad communication is probably not something you want your attorneys—or potentially a judge—reading later.What Needs Action—and What Needs Inaction?We often divide our problems into two categories:Things I can control.Things I can't control.Andrea offers a different way to think about it during divorce:What needs my action?And:What needs my inaction?Sometimes inaction is an active decision.You can recognize that something is scary, painful or uncertain without trying to solve it tonight.You aren't pretending the problem doesn't exist.You're deciding:Not now.Tomorrow, you can reopen the box.Tonight, your job is to rest.When Your Brain Still Won't Shut UpSometimes you've written everything down. You've made tomorrow's list. You've silenced your notifications. You've decided what can wait.And your brain is still going.That's exactly why we created our Guided Divorce Meditations.Earlier this week, we released one of the meditations completely free on the podcast: For When You Can't Sleep.It's about 10 minutes long, and Andrea walks you through putting those thoughts and fears somewhere safe for the night—not throwing them away, not pretending they don't matter, but giving yourself permission to stop carrying them until morning.The complete Guided Divorce Meditation library is $20 and includes meditations created specifically for different moments of divorce when you need help quieting the noise.[GET THE GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS HERE]Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseGuided Divorce MeditationsOurFamilyWizardSoberlinkSubscribe, Rate & ReviewIf How Not to Suck at Divorce is helping you get through your divorce a little smarter, calmer and more prepared, please subscribe and leave us a review. It helps more people find the show and allows us to keep creating resources that actually help you through this process.Rate the podcast:www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckAnd remember: you are going to get through this.One step at a time. One day at a time. And sometimes, one hour at a time.You've got this.And we've got you.SEO Keywordsdivorce anxiety, can't sleep during divorce, divorce insomnia, divorce keeping me awake, how to sleep during divorce, anxiety during divorce, divorce stress, divorce anxiety at night, divorce meditation, guided divorce meditation, meditation for divorce anxiety, divorce sleep meditation, how to stop thinking about divorce, divorce overthinking, divorce attorney advice, communicating with ex during divorce, co-parenting communication, divorce lawyer communication, high conflict divorce, divorce mental health, coping with divorce, divorce podcast, How Not to Suck at DivorceMentioned in this episode:Need Extra Cash?Why not see how much Worthy can get you for your ring? It's a risk free process- and Worthy works with you to get the best price possible. Get an extra $100 if your ring sells for more than $1500. https://vip.worthy.com/divorcepod/?utm_medium=podcast&utm_source=how_not_to_suck_at_divorce
