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How Not To Suck At Divorce: Divorce Advice You Need To HearAuthor: Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
How Not to Suck at Divorce guides anyone whos divorcing or even just considering divorce. Hosted by Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport, the show delivers equal parts strategy, empathy, and humor. Morgan Stogsdill is a powerhouse family law attorney and head of family law at the largest firm in the United States. Shes seen every curveball, knows the difference between drama and strategy, and helps clients avoid costly mistakes. Andrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketing pro, and divorced-then-happily-remarried mom who has made the exact painful mistakes we beg you not to repeat. Together, weve built a podcast that blends courtroom-level insight with compassionate, practical moves you can use the second the episode ends. Our community is loyal, our guests are leaders, and our episodes are packed with value. In short: listening to How Not to Suck at Divorce will help you avoid major divorce mistakes. We launched this show to fill the gap between funny but fluffy podcasts and useful but soul-crushing legal jargon. The goal: actionable empathy. With scripts, checklists, and boundaries ready, youll make fewer panic decisions and save money, time, and sanity. What We Cover Should I stay or should I go? Decision-making frameworks, acronyms, and step-by-step exercises for clarity. Co-parenting and high-conflict personalities. We unpack narcissist dynamics, manipulation tactics, and non-reactive communication. (We even created a framework called WTF to help you remember it when your brain is on fire.) The BIFF method and conflict de-escalation. With Bill Eddy of the High Conflict Institute, we translate his tools into real-world texts and emails you can send without blowing up your case. Tech safety and AI mistakes. Steven Bradley, former FBI agent and digital safety expert (Tech Cowboy), explains how tech evidence, AI hallucinations, and smart device trails can helpor hurtyour case. Prenups, financial transparency, and power dynamics. Guests like Katie Post share what to i Language: en Genres: Education, How To, Relationships, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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207. The Biggest Divorce Mistakes I Made (That Cost Me Thousands)
Episode 208
Wednesday, 22 April, 2026
Get the Divorce Crash Course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseGoing into your divorce blindly is one of the most expensive decisions you can make.Andrea Rappaport knows this firsthand—because she did exactly that.In this raw, unfiltered episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea breaks down the biggest mistakes she made during her own divorce… from ignoring red flags in her marriage to rushing through legal agreements that cost her thousands of dollars to fix later.This episode is honest, emotional, and incredibly practical—because every mistake she made is one you can avoid. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why ignoring red flags early can lead to bigger, more expensive consequencesThe danger of making emotional decisions instead of strategic ones during divorceWhy hiring the first attorney you find (out of desperation) can derail your caseHow to recognize when your attorney relationship isn’t workingThe costly mistake of signing agreements you don’t fully understandWhy rushing your parenting agreement can impact your custody long-termThe truth about “temporary” agreements—and why they aren’t always temporaryWhy going into divorce without education leads to expensive, avoidable mistakesThe co-parenting app mistake that can cost you control and documentationHow constant communication with your ex can drain you emotionally and financiallyWhy the court doesn’t focus on emotional abuse—and what actually mattersHow to stop reacting to your ex and protect your peace (and your wallet)The Pattern Behind Every Divorce MistakeAndrea shares a powerful realization:👉 She felt too much and thought too little.When you’re overwhelmed, anxious, or in survival mode, it’s almost impossible to think strategically.But divorce isn’t just emotional—it’s legal, financial, and long-term.And when you rush decisions:You sign things you don’t understandYou overpay your attorneyYou create agreements you’ll later regret The Hard Truth About DivorceFamily court is not designed to fix everything.It does not:Manage emotional abuseRegulate your ex’s behaviorProtect you from chaos👉 It responds to facts, documentation, and strategyWhich means: The more reactive you are, the more expensive your divorce becomes.The Mistake That Cost the MostOne of Andrea’s biggest regrets?Treating her divorce like something she just needed to “get through quickly.”Rushing decisions—especially around parenting agreements—led to:ConfusionLoss of controlThousands of dollars to fix later What Andrea Would Do DifferentlyIf she could go back, she would:Think more and feel lessHire the right attorney (not just the available one)Slow down major decisionsGet educated before signing anythingPut stronger boundaries in place with her exUse better tools (like a structured co-parenting app)Focus on what she could control—not what she couldn’t🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:👉 Divorce Crash Course hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course👉 OurFamilyWizard (Co-Parenting App) ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 How to Hire the Right Attorney Guide hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides Final ThoughtIf you feel like you’re barely staying afloat in your divorce…That’s normal.But you don’t have to stay in survival mode.The biggest mistakes Andrea made were avoidable—and now you have the roadmap to avoid them too.Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
