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BeThatHealingGirl PodcastAuthor: bethathealinggirl
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Why Working Harder Isn’t Changing Your Anxious Attachment
Episode 122
Tuesday, 17 March, 2026
Let’s talk about something that feels productive… but is actually keeping you stuck: working harder in your relationship. You know what I mean. You’ve got the notes app open in bed. You’re rewriting the text. Replaying the conversation. Journaling it out. Trying to say it the right way so you don’t sound needy. And it feels like you’re doing all the “right” things. Like you’re being thoughtful, self-aware, emotionally intelligent. But somehow… you still feel anxious. Still overthinking. Still stuck in the same loop. In this episode, we’re getting honest about why working harder isn’t healing your anxious attachment — and why it might actually be making your relationship feel heavier, more stressful, and way less fun than it needs to be. We talk about: - The “I just need to figure this out” mindset in relationships - Why overthinking, journaling, and rewriting texts can become over-functioning - The cycle of feeling distance → working harder → over-explaining → temporary relief → repeat - What it looks like to perform being secure vs. actually feeling secure - Why high-achieving women struggle to relax in relationships - How trying to “fix” the relationship pulls you out of actually experiencing it Because here’s the truth: You don’t need to work harder to be loved. And love isn’t supposed to feel like a full-time job. If anything, overworking the relationship is usually the thing that’s draining the connection, the spontaneity, and the ease you actually want. I also share a personal moment from preparing for a big trip (and my partner meeting my dad) — and how easy it is to fall back into “I’ll just handle this myself” instead of letting someone support you. If you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I just relax in my relationship?” “Why do I feel like I’m doing so much and still not feeling secure?” “Why does love feel harder than it should?” This episode is for you. Take a breath. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just using a strategy that works everywhere else… except here. 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
