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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple...Author: The Universal Needs
Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Language: en Genres: Education, Self-Improvement Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Episode 203 - The Villain era series: No matter how good you are you're the villain in someone's story
Episode 45
Monday, 20 April, 2026
Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 203 - "Why no matter how good you are, you're the villain in someones story" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideHave you ever been made into the villain when you didn't do anything wrong? Been there and wore the cape and mask for that. We're now proudly in our villain era and even wearing our green and purple for the occasion. If you aren't sure what we're talking about tune into today's episode where we are going to discuss what it's like to be villainized when you've actually done nothing wrong, why people villainize others and how to check if you are truly in villain status and doing harm to others or just not meeting someone else's needs for them. In this episode we cover:Why Claire and Serena are ok with being the villain in some people's storyThe role interconnectedness plays in determining a villainThe difference between identity and behaviorInterpreting someones actions through the lens of one's own unmet needsBeing seen as a villain when we were younger vs being seen as one nowDoubling down and creating a super villainVillainizing someone to avoid (potentially) uncomfortable communicationPlacing blame instead of facing accountabilityWhy so many people need a villain to blameWhen setting boundaries gets villainizedImpact over intentionDropping into the Drama TriangleWhy Serena's often considered even more of an asshole nowGetting labeled the assholeBeing made out to be the villain doesn't mean it's valid and why it's OK to have feelings about thisEpisode References:The episode on interconnectedness - Episode 202 - What is interconnectedness and why is it so critical to getting our needs met?The selfirst episodes -The Selfirst series- Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibilityEpisode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needsThe Shapes Series -The Drama Triangle episodes -The Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Victim ApproachThe Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Persecutor ApproachThe Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Rescuer ApproachThe Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Empowerment Dynamic episodes -The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesThe episodes on prioritizing short term comfort but creating long term conflict - Episode 188 - What is supportive discomfort?The Boundaries Series - Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?Episode 102 - Boundaries Series: How to know what your boundaries areEpisode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundariesImpact over intention - Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn’t matter…Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
