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Chasing Common Ground: Lifestyle Conversations with Chris LiddleThe Lifestyle Chase is a Podcast featuring people who have found ways to be high performers while taking care of their family, friends and their wellness. Author: Chris Liddle
Formerly known as "The Lifestyle Chase", Chasing Common Ground is a purpose-driven podcast that doesn't fit into one box or category. The mission is to help listeners find common ground with a variety of guests and solo topics and progress in life year over year rather than simply staying the same. chrisliddle.substack.com Language: en Genres: Education, Self-Improvement, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Paul Buono on OCD, Fear, Identity & Becoming a Fully Human Coach
Monday, 17 November, 2025
In this deeply human conversation, coach Paul Buono opens up about identity, perfectionism, OCD, lupus, disordered eating, fear-based avoidance, and the path to becoming a more integrated person. The episode explores how tunnel vision—whether toward fitness, career, or health—can disconnect us from friendships, opportunities, and fully living.We also talk about coaching psychology, small wins, micro-habits, routines, messy life transitions, and why connection is the most important part of health.This one is rich with insight, self-awareness, compassion, and extremely relatable struggles. Paul’s honesty helps listeners feel seen, and his coaching philosophy shines through story after story.⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – Intro — Chris opens the episode and asks Paul for a short personal intro.01:00 – Who Paul Is Beyond Coaching — identities outside of career.02:00 – The struggle with accepting help — Chris’s couch story and independence.03:00 – Tunnel vision & the “rabbit wheel” — Paul’s CrossFit era and missing life.04:00 – Living like a racehorse — blinders, achievement, and imbalance.05:00 – Anchors in life: people who pull you out — Chris’s travel breakthrough.06:00 – OCD, fear, and exposure therapy (ERP) — Paul goes deep.07:00 – Fear of the future & “3-2-1 just do it.”08:00 – Closing the loop: exposure → proof of safety09:00 – When OCD shapes your whole life — childhood patterns, checklists.10:00 – Eating disorder origins & control11:00 – Lupus diagnosis shrinking his world — hypervigilance & restriction.12:00 – Bringing your own soap to work — how extreme it became.13:00 – Reintegrating with the real world — embracing discomfort.14:00 – Safe foods vs connection — Chris’s nutrition reflection.15:00 – Real Coaches Summit impact — connection > fear.16:00 – Diversity in fitness & hidden limitations17:00 – Hearing impairment + jiu jitsu — Chris’s perspective.18:00 – Nothing has to be perfect to still be worth it19:00 – People think coaches are perfect—but we’re not20:00 – Coaching breakthrough story — client who transformed through compassion.21:00 – “You have to be willing to look like an idiot.”22:00 – Shortening the gap after setbacks — from 6 weeks to 2 days.23:00 – Micro-habits & clothes on the toilet seat24:00 – Setting people up for wins instead of overwhelm25:00 – Turning weaknesses into strengths (homemade pizza story)26:00 – Tiny details that unlock big adherence27:00 – Breaking workouts into 5-minute chunks28:00 – Plan A vs Plan B programming29:00 – Weight trends vs real progress31:00 – Compassion > criticism32:00 – The brain’s bias toward threat34:00 – In-person training and human connection36:00 – Why funny stories often reveal wins38:00 – Chris’s philosophy in-person training39:00 – Are relationships scalable in online coaching?41:00 – Loneliness, AI, and the future of fitness42:00 – Chris’s Substack & predictions about the future44:00 – Online coaching delivery models46:00 – Automation for call scheduling (backend vs client-facing)48:00 – Exposure therapy in everyday life (dishwasher story)50:00 – Removing life “leaks” one decision at a time51:00 – Moving out post-divorce & ripping the bandaid53:00 – When chaos moves you forward faster54:00 – Leaning into discomfort & not waiting for perfect clarity55:00 – Paul’s January coaching waitlist56:00 – Paul’s life advice: know your values, prioritize authentically.Paul BuonoInstagram: https://instagram.com/paulbuonoWebsite: https://paulbuono.comHost Links:Podcast: https://podcast.invigoratetraining.comTraining: https://invigoratetraining.com/Media Consulting: https://christianliddle.com/Store: https://store.invigoratetraining.com Get full access to Insight by Chris Liddle at chrisliddle.substack.com/subscribe
