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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelAuthor: Ruth Reymundo Mandel & David Mandel
This podcast is a series of conversations. What started as a series of intimate conversations between Ruth and David that ranged from personal to professional experiences around violence, relationships, abuse, and system and professional responses which harm, not help, has now become a global conversation about systems and culture change. In many episodes, David and Ruth are joined by a global leader in different areas like child safety, men and masculinity, and, of course, partnering with survivors. Each episode is a deep dive into complex topics like how systems fail domestic abuse survivors and their children, societal views of masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world together as professionals, as parents, and as partners. During these podcasts, David and Ruth challenge the notions which keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures, and as families into safety, nurturance, and healing. We hope you join us.Have an idea for a podcast? Tell about it here: https://share.hsforms.com/1l329DGB1TH6AFndCFfB7aA3a1w1 Language: en-us Genres: News, Politics, Relationships, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Season 7, Episode 7: Coercive Control and Children: What Systems Miss | Conference Wrap-Up (Australia 2025)
Sunday, 22 March, 2026
The most useful conference debriefs aren’t about highlights, they’re about what shifts in you when you listen closely. From the Sydney coast, we wrap up a three-and-a-half-week Asia-Pacific tour and talk through the moments that changed the temperature in the room at our Coercive Control and Children’s Conference. We start with gratitude, acknowledgement of unceded Aboriginal land, and the reality that building safer systems means showing up with humility, not just expertise.One of the biggest breakthroughs we share is our commitment to localized training and culturally responsive practice. We premiered a new Australia-based training film designed to teach coercive control as a pattern over time, centered in a perinatal scenario that follows a family before and after a child is born. With Australian actors, filmmakers, consultation from cultural experts, and survivor input, the film is built to help professionals recognize subtle tactics, see cumulative harm, and respond in ways that strengthen child safety and survivor safety rather than repeating harmful system habits.We also get into the harder conversations that practitioners can’t avoid: men’s health, masculinity, and accountability. We talk about why supporting men and boys can’t come at the cost of women and children, and why we have to operationalize that promise instead of offering lip service. In the Australian context, we connect family violence practice with the impacts of colonization, racism, intergenerational trauma, and family separation, while staying clear that healing requires stopping abusive behavior. Along the way, we reflect on survivor voices, workforce wellbeing, and the need for non-extractive organizational cultures.Finally, we dig into the practical lever that can change outcomes in family law: pattern-based documentation. We share why judicial leaders describe this kind of documentation as “gold,” and how the Safety Nexus tool supports workers with coaching, mapping, and better notes when stakes are life-or-death. If you care about coercive control, domestic violence response, child protection, and safer systems, this conversation gives you language you can use tomorrow. Subscribe, share with a colleague, and leave a review so more practitioners can find the work.Send us Fan Mail Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in realCheck out David Mandel's new book Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence.Visit the Safe & Together Institute website.Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses. Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events.
