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How Systems Fail to Address Long-Term Grief, and Loss — And What We Can Do Differently with Shenandoah Chefalo
Episode 96
Wednesday, 8 July, 2026
In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney Williams and Travis Vangsnes welcome Shenandoah Chefalo, an author and advocate for trauma-informed systems change. Shenandoah shares her personal journey through foster care, emphasizing the complexities of grief and loss experienced by children in the system. The conversation explores the impact of systems on grief, the challenges of hyperindependence, and the importance of empowering children with choices. Shenandoah also discusses her memoir as a tool for healing and the significance of curiosity in understanding children's behaviors. This episode highlights the need for a nuanced approach to supporting children in foster care, recognizing that healing is an ongoing journey. Shenandoah and the hosts discuss the complexities of the foster care system, emphasizing the importance of flexibility, community support, and understanding the unique needs of foster youth. They explore how rules can sometimes hinder rather than help, and the necessity of fostering connections between biological and foster families. The discussion highlights the need for adults to recognize and honor the grief that children in foster care experience, advocating for a more compassionate and understanding approach to caregiving.Pickup a copy of her book: "The Best Bunny: The Adventures of Lil Shen (and her inspirational sidekick, Bunny Best)"https://a.co/d/0iA5k1TmTakeawaysShenandoah emphasizes the importance of moving from survival to stability and belonging.Grief in foster care is often overlooked and not addressed by systems.Hyperindependence can hinder the ability to accept help and support.Writing a memoir can help organize fragmented experiences and promote healing.Ambiguous loss affects children in care, as they miss their previous lives.Children in foster care often feel uncomfortable in new environments.Empowering children with choices can help them feel more secure.Curiosity about children's behaviors can lead to better understanding and solutions.The system often fails to address the grief of both children and workers.Healing is an ongoing journey, not a one-time event. Foster parents can push back on rigid rules for the benefit of the child.Community support is crucial for foster youth and their families.Flexibility in rules can lead to better outcomes for children.Children need to feel they are not disposable and that they belong.Behavior in children often stems from grief and loss.Foster care systems should encourage connections between biological and foster families.Adults need to be consistent and understanding in their approach to foster youth.Curiosity about a child's behavior can lead to better understanding and support.It is important to recognize that every child is unique and requires different approaches.Belonging should not be seen as a reward but a fundamental need. Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.Meet kids awaiting adoption.Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.
