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Coffee with The Couple CurePractical Tips to help your relationship, by the time you finish your first cup--with Relationship Mentors, Lori and Jay Author: Jay & Lori Pyatt
Practical Tips to help your relationship, by the time you finish your first cupwith Relationship Mentors, Jay and Lori Pyatt Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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EMPATHY DOES NOT ALWAYS WORK (what actually changed me)
Monday, 9 February, 2026
"Did my own empathy actually make it easier for you to keep lying?” In this episode, Jay answers 10 hard questions about the hidden dynamics of deception in their marriage. We dive into: •DECEPTION DELIGHT Why some addicts pride themselves on the "high" of hiding the truth. •EXPLOSIVE FIGHTS: When Jay exploded during every fight, was it used as a tactic to shut down the conversation and avoid consequences. •DEFAULT MODE ofAddiction: Why 'time' doesn't heal an addict who isn't in active recovery. If you’ve ever felt like your attempts to help are only making things worse, this video is for you. We explore the thin line between being supportive and inadvertently providing the "distance" an addiction needs to thrive. Timestamps 0:00 Intro 0:47 One TACTIC Jay used to use 1:18 Empty house = opportunity to act out (trying to have a life enabled him) 03:52 Time heals wounds but IT DOES NOT HEAL THIS (why waiting doesn't work) 04:54 The GUILT TRIP: "You're supposed to FORGIVE me" 06:04 The addicts delusion 07:01 What happens when there are no consequences 07:56 "Created BAD FIGHTS so I'd stop talking?" 09:56 Quick acceptance of lies = back to STATUS QUO 10:24 "Console me when you should confront me" (when he camped on his bad past) 11:50 Empathy or something else: What ACTUALLY got his attention ⭐ 13:35 "Tell her to back off" - when people enabled his addiction -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ Guys to Schedule a Free Call with Jay - https://porniskillingme.com/schedule-a-free-intro-call/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice
