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7 On Sundays PodcastAuthor: stephanie boye
7 On Sundays (SOS) is the only podcast today with young people sharing their raw and real experiences with sex, relationships, and mental health. SOS co-hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby, are a dynamic combination of sex educator and family therapist. Our professional and anecdotal experience, working with thousands of young people, reveals that today's socially acceptable and normative behaviors damage young people and the culture at large. Each week, with SOS, we dig in with brave high school, college, and postgrads about the unspoken, often taboo, and alarming realities they are facing today. Young people share their raw feelings and disclose vulnerable, sometimes shocking situations around red flag relationships, assault, addiction, pornography, hookup culture, anxiety, depression, and more. What we all think is uncommon is sadly rampant across college campuses. Each 7 On Sundays episode is emotional, impactful, and yet, incredibly inspiring. We listen, invite insight, and offer concrete tools so our guests and listeners can experience more agency, integrity, and peace. Life is messyTune in to 7 On Sundays and hear from others who have similar stories, questions, dilemmas, and most importantly, solutions. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Language: en Genres: Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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When Sex Turns Extreme: Porn, Trauma, and Boundaries in Relationships — Thomas's Story
Episode 49
Sunday, 28 December, 2025
Thomas shares a rare male perspective on porn, trauma, violent sex, and the struggle for boundaries, consent, and healing in modern relationships. What happens when love collides with extreme sexual expectations, past trauma, and pornography's influence? In this raw and courageous episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Thomas, who bravely shares his story of navigating a relationship shaped by violent sexual behaviors, unspoken boundaries, and emotional conflict. From the normalization of rough and extreme sex to the generational shift fueled by porn and peer culture, Thomas offers a rare male perspective on how these dynamics affect mental health, intimacy, and self-worth. Together, they explore the psychological toll of violent sexual expectations, the struggle to balance love with discomfort, and the importance of open conversations about boundaries, consent, and healing past trauma. Listeners will gain insight into: How pornography rewires sexual expectations and behaviors. The emotional consequences of violent sexual practices. The pressure men face to "perform" in dominant roles. Why trauma often resurfaces in intimate relationships. Tools for communication, boundary setting, and self-awareness. This is an essential episode for anyone questioning cultural sexual norms, struggling with intimacy, or seeking healing after difficult experiences. Resources Mentioned - The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships. - 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support. - 7 on Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 Thomas's Story Begins 01:14 Introducing the Hosts and Guest 01:34 Discussion on Sexual Strangulation 02:20 Age Gap and Pornography's Impact 03:10 Thomas's Relationship Dynamics 06:26 Emotional and Sexual Discord 13:24 Thomas's Struggle with Strangulation 17:10 Impact of Pornography on Preferences 25:39 Therapy and Unresolved Issues 30:56 The Prevalence of Abuse 31:13 Normalization of Sexual Assault 31:37 Impact of Pornography on Perception 32:34 Peer Influence and Sexual Behavior 32:55 Communication and Misunderstanding in Relationships 35:11 Male Perspective on Sexual Expectations 37:48 The Trauma of Sexual Strangulation 41:32 Healing and Moving Forward 44:59 The Need for Open Discussions 56:05 Final Thoughts and Resources Resources Mentioned - The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships. - 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support. - 7 On Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.
