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Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addictionAuthor: Brenda Zane
Hopestream is the defacto resource for parents who have a teen or young adult child who's misusing drugs or alcohol, and struggling with mental health - hosted by Brenda Zane. Brenda is a Mayo Clinic Certified health & wellness coach, CRAFT-trained Parent Coach, and mom of a son who nearly lost his life to addiction. Guests include addiction, prevention, and treatment experts, family members impacted by their loved one's substance use, and wellness and self-care specialists. You'll also hear heartfelt messages from me, your host. It's a safe, nurturing respite from the chaos and confusion you live with. Between the episodes, we gather in The Stream Community, our private, online space for moms and female caregivers. Learn more at www.hopestreamcommunity.org/the-stream/. Language: en-us Genres: Health & Fitness, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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The Hidden Casualties of Family Addiction Battles, with Brenda Zane
Episode 305
Thursday, 25 December, 2025
EPISODE DESCRIPTION:"When elephants fight, it's the grass that suffers." This African proverb stopped me mid-scroll during a walk, and I saw my family's addiction story with some pretty painful clarity. While my ex-husband, husband and I stomped around trying to wage war on our son's substance use and high-risk lifestyle, we completely missed who was getting trampled beneath our giant, well-meaning feet.This week's raw and honest solo episode unpacks the heavyweight champion of family conflicts: parents locked in battle over how to handle their child's substance use. I reflect about missing my younger son Marco's quiet suffering (spoiler: he mastered invisibility to survive our chaos), and you'll hear how our struggling kids internalize parental discord as proof they're destroying the family. You'll hear why treating addiction like toothpaste you can force back in the tube only creates more destruction, and how shifting from head-on combat to clay-shaping might just save your entire family ecosystem. (lots of metaphors in this week's show!)Fortunately, the Invitation to Change Approach offers a roadmap for stepping more carefully through crisis - because your other children, parents, friends, and even your struggling child deserve better than getting flattened while you fight about tough love versus cushioning falls.What you'll learn:Why siblings of struggling kids often perfect the art of being "not as bad" - and the long-term cost of that survival strategyHow late-night battles between parents may send dangerous "I'm the problem" messages to your struggling childThe critical shift from manager to consultant when your child hits adulthood (and why this transition can spark explosive co-parenting conflicts)Why approaching addiction like malleable clay instead of a winnable war creates healing space for everyoneSpecific ways to acknowledge and tend to the "trampled grass" in your family this weekEPISODE RESOURCES:Hopestream podcast episode with Marco Narcsio, (#70)This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityGet our free, 4-video course, Hope Starts Here, and access to our Limited Membership hereLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereWatch the podcast on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.
