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The Strenuous Life Podcast with Stephan KestingAuthor: Stephan Kesting
What is it that allows some people to push themselves beyond their limitations? Why can some people survive situations others do not? On this podcast we try to find out the answers. Stephan Kesting, is a lifelong martial artist, BJJ black belt, career firefighter, and outdoorsman. Join us as he talks to fighters, adventurers, competitors, coaches, firefighters, trainers and other people living the strenuous life. Stephan also runs Grapplearts.com, where he has published many hundreds of martial arts videos, articles and tutorials. His free guide to learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, A Roadmap for BJJ, has been downloaded more than 10,000 times and has become a foundational text for the art. Language: en Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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27 Red Flags to Avoid When Picking a BJJ Club
Episode 443
Tuesday, 24 February, 2026
Telltale traits of toxic schools by Stephan Kesting, a BJJ black belt for 20 years. Did he miss any red flags? RED FLAGS 01:24 No cross-training01:41 Separating you from friends and family02:30 No trial classes03:35 No talking to current students03:55 No watching classes04:14 Instructor's name + SA = positive 05:19 "Master"06:27 No sparring till blue belt07:27 No questions in class09:07 Poor hygiene and dirty mats 10:48 High-pressure sales tactics12:53 No talking in class14:27 Gravy Seal bootcamp15:24 "Every other school sucks"16:13 Instructor chronically dates students17:18 Financial-medical-astronomical-astrological advice17:27 No competition / in-house tournaments only20:22 Peaked in high school22:57 Focusing only on top competitors23:20 Focusing only on hot women23:45 Focusing only on their phones24:55 Can't pause your membership25:41 "We don't tap to THAT here..."27:26 Mat bullies are tolerated ORANGE FLAGS 29:46 Mandatory and expensive uniforms30:52 Ranking and promotion fees32:19 I see dead people (and bow to them)33:30 Instructor doesn't roll35:01 No colored belts (or women)35:21 "Professor" (see video below) RELATED RESOURCES The infamous "Don't Call Me Professor" video - https://youtu.be/-TeE3tYMiJM Grapplearts instructionals in streaming and app formats: https://www.grapplearts.com/instructionals/ My best-selling book: Perseverance, Life and Death in the Subarctic: https://www.amazon.com/Perseverance-Death-Subarctic-Stephan-Kesting/dp/1639368612/ My book co-written with BJJ black belt world champion Brandon Mullins: Nonstop Jiu-Jitsu: https://www.amazon.com/Non-Stop-Jiu-Jitsu-Champions-Aggressive/dp/B08CPNPNDD
