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Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby SeeleyAuthor: Joe and Shelby Seeley
A honest, authentic podcast where we discuss everything from sex, intimacy, marriage, unity, family and legacy. Does your marriage feel like a constant DIY project that will never get completed? And at times you just want to tear it down and start over? Well then this podcast is for you Joe and Shelby are high school sweethearts who have been married 23 years and have had to remodel everything in their lives multiple times and during the toughest of times they have never given up on the vision of what their marriage could be. With backgrounds in real estate, ministry and business ownership Joe and Shelby have coached thousands of people at all different stages of life, marriage and business. No matter what phase your relationships are in, Whether it's the dream phase, redesign, remodeling or the full renovation, they want to provide you the concrete tools to create the marriage you've always dreamed of. Language: en Genres: Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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33. The 5 Questions That Will Shape Your Marriage This Year
Wednesday, 14 January, 2026
In today's episode, we're continuing the vision conversation we started in part one. These next five questions felt heavier—but in the best way. They forced us to slow down and really assess what season we're in, what we're being asked to step into, and what might need to be released so we can move forward with clarity and unity. Vision isn't just about dreaming—it's about making room. We start with a big question: What opportunities are we being called to step into, and what do we need to let go of to make room? This one surfaced a lot for us. God rarely adds without asking us to release something, and we've learned that holding onto old things—relationships, commitments, habits—can actually become obstacles in the next season. Just because something was good doesn't mean it's meant to come with you forever. Timing matters, and not every opportunity is a now opportunity. Next, we talk about finances and what financial freedom actually looks like for us. This conversation has evolved over 27 years of marriage. Financial freedom isn't just a number—it's emotional, relational, and deeply tied to trust and shared values. We share how our focus has shifted from trading time for money to creating sustainability, margin, and legacy—not just for our kids, but for generations to come. From there, we unpack boundaries—because strong marriages are protected, not accidental. Boundaries aren't walls; they're gates. In this season, we've learned the importance of accountability, wise counsel, unified decision-making, and having safe people who can speak into our lives. One of our current boundaries is simple but powerful: if both of us don't say yes, it's a no for now. Unity creates safety. We also lean into one of our favorite topics: adventures, experiences, and traditions. Fun is not optional—it's fuel. Shared joy builds resilience, and intentional memories anchor you during hard seasons. From annual family vision trips to spontaneous adventures and weekly family dinners, we talk about how intentionality has shaped our family culture and helped our kids grow with confidence and focus. We close with the final question: What promise do we want to make for this next chapter that will anchor us spiritually and relationally? Promises define direction. They're not about pressure—they're about identity and commitment. We each share the promises we're making to one another and encourage you to revisit your promises too. You're not starting over—you're building forward. Marriage isn't a DIY project, and you don't have to do this alone. LINKS: Website: redesignyourmarriage.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/redesignyourmarriage Instagram.com/redesign_your_marriage instagram.com/_shelby_seeley Quick Episode Summary: 0:00 – Welcome to part two of the marriage vision conversation 1:00 – Why these questions are forward-facing and harder 2:00 – Question 6: What opportunities are we being called into? 3:00 – Why God asks us to release things before adding new ones 4:10 – New opportunities vs. now opportunities 5:30 – Doing opportunities in unity (we win or learn together) 6:45 – Making room by letting go of relationships or commitments 8:00 – Stepping deeper into coaching and mentoring 9:10 – Question 7: What does financial freedom look like for us? 10:30 – Why money is emotional and reveals values 12:00 – Shifting from trading time for money to legacy thinking 14:00 – Building generational impact, not just provision 15:10 – Question 8: What boundaries protect our marriage? 16:30 – Boundaries create safety, not restriction 18:00 – Accountability, mentors, and unity in decisions 19:30 – Question 9: Adventures, traditions, and intentional fun 21:00 – Why fun is fuel and shared joy builds resilience 22:30 – Family traditions, vision trips, and spontaneous adventures 24:30 – Question 10: The promise we're making for the next chapter 26:00 – Letting go of broken promises from the past 27:30 – Recommitting to covenant and building forward 28:45 – Encouragement to start with one question this week 29:45 – Final encouragement + coaching invitation
