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Always Better than Yesterday with Ryan Hartley | A Podcast for Heart Centred LeadersAuthor: Ryan Hartley
This podcast exists to equip and inspire your heart-centred leadership. You will hear from world class guests each Wednesday plus daily insights from our host, Ryan Hartley. Be sure to email us your questions to podcast@abty.co.uk Our interviews are also available to watch, just simply head over to our YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/alwaysbetterthanyesterday If you'd like help with anything you hear on this podcast, please do email podcast@abty.co.uk or take a look at how we may serve you best at www.abty.co.uk. Language: en Genres: Education, Self-Improvement Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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Ep 353 Interview Sessions with Monica Tanner | Bad Marriage Advice and the Secrets of Happily Ever After
Episode 353
Tuesday, 20 October, 2026
What does it take to build the relationship promised by Secrets of Happily Ever After, and which familiar ideas might be getting in the way? Ryan Hartley speaks with Monica Tanner, certified relationship coach, host of Secrets of Happily Ever After and author of Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead, about the assumptions and habits that can draw well-meaning couples apart.Monica’s book, Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead, examines 15 common myths and offers skills in their place. In the episode, she draws on Relational Life Therapy concepts, including differentiation: remaining yourself while staying connected to someone whose views differ from yours.Those with ears, let them hear.Always love,RyanConnect with Monica TannerOfficial website: https://www.monicatanner.com/Book and author page: https://www.badmarriageadvice.com/get-the-bookPodcast website: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.buzzsprout.com/Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/secrets-of-happily-ever-after-marriage-and-intimacy/id1345544810Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage/Connect with Always Better Than YesterdayWebsite: https://abty.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/abty/Men’s Group – Akira: https://abty.co.uk/akiraJoin the mailing list: https://abty.co.uk/contactSign up for coaching: https://abty.co.uk/coachingQuestions and reflections: podcast@abty.co.ukEpisode chapters00:00 Monica Tanner on marriage and real life07:16 The childhood story behind her work09:09 Happily ever after takes intention10:46 How couples drift into roommate syndrome13:09 Bad marriage advice and happiness15:50 Resentment as a dashboard warning light18:46 Healing, childhood needs and familiar wounds24:26 Self-affirmation and validation27:43 Seeing the impact of our behaviour31:05 Pornography, shame and understanding the root34:45 Authenticity without losing connection38:07 The family patterns we pass on42:26 Compassionate curiosity in practice45:01 A question to build emotional intimacy46:42 Monica’s work and final messageDescription: Monica Tanner, author of Bad Marriage Advice, joins Ryan Hartley to discuss marriage myths, resentment, roommate syndrome and communication in couples. Learn how everyday habits can weaken connection, why resentment can act as a warning sign, and how compassionate curiosity can help partners understand each other and begin rebuilding emotional intimacy.Disclaimer: This episode shares general relationship-coaching perspectives and is not therapy or a substitute for professional care. If you are facing abuse, coercion, or immediate danger, seek qualified local support.#MonicaTanner #BadMarriageAdvice #MarriageAdvice
