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Empowering Women In ConversationsAuthor: Anita Sandoval
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Why Is It So Hard to Put Yourself First? (And How to Change That) | Part 2
Episode 47
Saturday, 31 October, 2026
What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!Why Is It So Hard to Put Yourself First? (And How to Change That) | Part 2You know you're people-pleasing. You know you need boundaries. So why is it still so hard to put yourself first?You rehearse saying NO. You promise yourself that next time will be different. But when someone needs something, you find yourself saying YES again—even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or resentful.Sound familiar?In Part 2 of Empowering Women in Conversations, I continue my conversation with Dr. Alena Čandová, author of Grace Over Grit: The Neuroscience of Claiming Your Inner Authority and creator of the Grace Over Grit Method.In Part 1, we explored why people-pleasing patterns develop and why awareness alone isn't always enough to change them.Now we're answering the bigger question: How do we actually begin changing those patterns?Dr. Alena shares her four-step approach to recognizing automatic responses, cultivating nervous system safety, and developing greater inner authority.We explore why putting yourself first can feel uncomfortable, how to recognize emotional triggers without automatically reacting to them, and why self-compassion is essential to creating lasting behavioral change.💗 In This Episode, You'll Discover:Why knowing you need boundaries doesn't automatically make setting them easier.What inner authority means and how to begin reclaiming it.How to recognize people-pleasing as a learned protective response rather than a personal failure.Four steps for beginning to change deeply learned patterns.Why consistency matters more than perfection when practicing new responses.How to recognize physical signs of emotional activation.How to stay connected to yourself during uncomfortable conversations.Why saying NO can sometimes be an act of self-respect rather than selfishness.How always rescuing others may unintentionally prevent them from taking responsibility for themselves.One of the most powerful reminders from this conversation:Sometimes your nervous system doesn't feel safe saying NO or putting yourself first.But that doesn't mean you're incapable of changing.It means you can begin learning a different way to respond—with awareness, compassion, and consistent practice.Because choosing yourself doesn't mean you stop caring about others. It means you stop abandoning yourself in the process.⏱️ Episode Chapters00:00 – Why is putting yourself first so difficult?00:07 – Grace Over Grit: A different approach to personal growth01:05 – Understanding protective patterns03:51 – What is inner authority?05:09 – Reclaiming your needs and trusting yourself08:47 – Understanding emotional triggers10:12 – Four steps to begin changing people-pleasing patterns11:09 – Why your nervous system may not feel safe saying NO12:03 – The importance of consistency and daily practice13:37 – Becoming curious about your automatic responses14:31 – Recognizing emotional activation in your body16:08 – Allowing feelings without immediately reacting18:00 – Practicing new responses during difficult interactions18:32 – When helping others becomes enabling21:01 – What does it mean to be an empowered woman?22:50 – A legacy message for the next generation23:58 – Closing reflections🎙️ Meet Our Guest: Dr. Alena ČandováDr. Alena Čandová is a Doctor of Chiropractic, neurocoach specializing in nervous system regulation and subconscious reprogramming, and author of Grace Over Grit: The Neuroscience of Claiming Your Inner Authority.She is the creator of the Grace Over Grit Method, which integrates nervous system regulation, subconscious pattern work, and practical approaches to behavioral transformation.Her work helps individuals explore the deeper patterns influencing their relationships, decisions, emotional responses, and connection with themselves.🎁 Free Resource From Dr. AlenaDiscover Your Inner ArchitectureAre subconscious patterns influencing how you respond to stress, boundaries, relationships, and your own needs?Explore Dr. Alena's Inner Architecture Assessment as a starting point for reflecting on those patterns.👉 Take the Assessment:https://www.sattvaintegralhealth.com/assessment/Explore Dr. Alena's Programs, Book & Resources:https://www.sattvaintegralhealth.com/💗 Continue Your EmpowerHer Journey With AnitaUnderstanding your people-pleasing patterns is just the beginning. Here are resources to help you continue exploring your identity, boundaries, and emotional well-being.✨ What Kind of People Pleaser Are You?Are you the fixer, the peacekeeper, or the woman who feels responsible for everyone else's happiness?Discover more about your people-pleasing tendencies with my quiz.👉 Take the Quiz:https://www.anitasandoval.com/people-pleaser-quiz☕ Therapist Tea — Things I Notice in TherapyJoin me for reflections on people-pleasing, boundaries, relationships, trauma, and the patterns that keep women disconnected from themselves.Explore my newsletter and EmpowerHer resources:👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/empowerher/links🌸 The Confidence ResetReady to reconnect with yourself and begin rebuilding your confidence?Explore my free Confidence Reset resource.👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/the-confidence-reset💕 Join the EmpowerHer CommunityConnect with women learning to break people-pleasing patterns, rediscover their identity, and develop healthier boundaries.Find the community and additional resources:👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/empowerher/links🎧 Missed Part 1? Start Here!Why You Keep People-Pleasing Even When You Know Better | Part 1Discover why people-pleasing patterns develop, how subconscious conditioning influences behavior, and why knowing better doesn't always mean doing differently.▶️ Watch Part 1 on YouTube:https://youtu.be/VGzjV3TDlDQ🎧 Listen to Part 1:https://www.buzzsprout.com/1737983/episodes/20044948-why-you-keep-people-pleasing-even-when-you-know-better-part-1.mp3?download=true🎙️ Listen, Subscribe & ShareEnjoyed this conversation?Follow Empowering Women in Conversations on your favorite podcast platform so you don't miss future episodes about relationships, emotional healing, trauma, boundaries, neurodivergence, and women's empowerment.🎧 Find Your Favorite Listening Platform:https://www.anitasandoval.com/podcast-directories💗 Share this episode with a woman who is learning that her needs matter, too.⭐ Leave a rating or review to help more women discover these conversations.💬 Let's Keep the Conversation Going!What's harder for you: saying NO, dealing with the guilt afterward, or worrying about how someone will react?Remember, you can be loving, compassionate, and supportive without losing yourself.We are brave. We are strong. We are compassionate. We are women empowered.With love,Anita Sandoval, MA, LPC-SHost, Empowering Women in ConversationsEmpowerHer Pathways LLC
