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Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The complex journey of men and women in midlife, tackling subjects such as sex & the dynamic facets of midlife sexuality. I delve into dating & sex post-divorce, & the impact of changes in sexuality. Author: Karen Bigman
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only. Language: en Genres: Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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The Honest Truth About Being Married and Dating Other People | Ep. 171
Episode 171
Tuesday, 5 May, 2026
In this episode, I'm talking with Natalie Davis — former DOJ trial lawyer, polyamory advocate, and author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory — about what it actually looks like to build a life that doesn't follow the relationship script most of us were handed.Natalie has been with her husband since they were teenagers. They have an adult son. And over the past two decades, they've navigated swinging, open relationships, and fully polyamorous partnerships — together and separately. Today, she lives in a home with her husband and his long-term girlfriend, her metamour, while also dating outside the house. It works. And she's here to explain exactly how.We talk about the moment her husband first suggested opening their marriage, why her initial reaction was a hard no, and how she moved through fear and structure-loving resistance into something that genuinely expanded her world. She breaks down the differences between swinging, open relationships, and polyamory, shares what jealousy actually looks like when it shows up (and when it doesn't), and explains the safer sex elevator speech that everyone — monogamous or not — should be using.We also get into the real stuff: how her marriage stays strong when both partners are emotionally and physically connected to other people, what she told her son, how coming out as polyamorous affects friendships and family, why she's now fighting for legal protections for non-monogamous people, and what it's like to date much younger men after decades of marriage.This is not a conversation about blowing up your life. It's a conversation about questioning what you were taught, being honest about what you want, and realizing that love doesn't always have to look one way.In This Episode:00:00 What If You Were Never Taught Monogamy Was Optional?01:50 Meet Natalie Davis: DOJ Lawyer Turned Polyamory Advocate04:20 How Her Husband First Brought Up Opening Their Marriage07:40 Natalie's Arc: From Hard No to Saying Yes11:30 Swinging vs. Polyamory — What's the Actual Difference?16:00 Dating Separately for the First Time After Decades of Marriage19:15 Her First Real Poly Relationship — and What She Didn't Expect22:45 Inside a Swingers Club: What It's Actually Like26:25 The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Everyone Should Know30:00 Living with Her Husband's Girlfriend: The Resident V Setup33:35 Does She Ever Get Jealous? Honestly?36:15 What Her Son Knows — and How He Feels About It39:00 Coming Out as Polyamorous: Friends, Family, and Strangers Online41:45 Dating Much Younger Men After 4044:05 Is Polyamory an Orientation or a Choice?46:50 Fighting for Legal Protections for Non-Monogamous People48:20 Where to Find Natalie and Her Book Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Natalie Davis is the author Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory and the editor of the online publication Polyamory Today. Her work has appeared inHeart Affairs, Discovering Polyamory, Monogamish, and The Memoirist, and her opinions about polyamory have been published in The Washington Post.She has been interviewed on relationship podcasts and has presented workshops on communication and non-monogamy across the United States.A recovering DOJ trial lawyer, she lives in the Washington, DC, area, with her partner and her marvelous metamour. You can find her on Instagram, Medium,and her website as nataliedavisadventures.Connect with Natalie Davis:Website: https://www.nataliedavisadventures.comBook: Saying Yes: My Adventures in PolyamoryInstagram: @nataliedavisadventuresAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? 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