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Playing With FireAuthor: Joli Hamilton
Welcome to Playing With Fire, the podcast for people who are ready to custom-build their love. Were talking about non-monogamyhowever you design itas an individuation opportunity. Want to leave the default and make your life spectacularly you? Youre in the right place. Language: en Genres: Relationships, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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212 Repair Skills
Episode 212
Saturday, 12 July, 2025
Relationship ruptures happen to everyone, but repair is a skill that most of us were never really taught. When connections break down between partners, friends, family members, or colleagues, many of us rely on time alone to heal the wounds. But time itself isn't a repair tool, and waiting for hurts to magically disappear often leads to relationships that heal incorrectly, like a broken bone that wasn't properly set.The good news? Effective repair is a learnable skillset that can transform your relationships. Not only does thoughtful repair address specific ruptures, but it also builds relationship resilience, deepens intimacy, and creates psychological safety that allows both people to take more risks in vulnerability.Listen to this one, then check out the Repair Skills YT series we made for you—this is life-changing learning!In this episode, we talk about:— What relationship repair actually is (and what it definitely isn't)— Why time alone cannot heal relationship wounds— How repair is an opportunity to deepen intimacy rather than just a problem to solve— The importance of taking responsibility for your part in ruptures without over-functioning— Why defensiveness, excuses, and intellectualizing are repair-blockers that compound the original hurt— How to avoid performative apologies that don't actually address the underlying issues— Why asking for forgiveness can be problematic and coercive— Why patterns of rupture require patterns of repair— Why repair needs to be consensual—your partner may not be ready when you are— How explanation differs from excuses, and why timing matters when offering explanations— The importance of making repair actions relevant to the specific rupture that occurred— Why gift-giving, sex, or other distractions are not substitutes for genuine repairResources mentioned in this episode:— The Repair Skills YouTube Series— PWF Episode 129: Imago DialogueJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.TheYearOfOpening.comLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions