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Doing Divorce Different with Lesa KoskiDivorce, co-parenting & midlife comebacks for women over 40 Author: Lesa Koski
Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40this podcast is your guide to a healthier, faith-filled life transition. Hosted by family law attorney, mediator, and life coach Lesa Koski, each episode is designed to take the fear out of major life change and guide you toward peacewhether youre facing separation, navigating a divorce, working to strengthen your relationship, or rebuilding your life in midlife. Youll get heart-centered legal clarity, emotional support, and practical tools to help you heal, grow, and move forward with confidence. Topics include: Peaceful divorce strategies and mediation support Co-parenting help and parenting plans that actually work Prenups, postnups, and how to protect what matters most Emotional healing, mindset shifts, and confidence after a hard season Menopause, health changes, and how midlife affects mood, marriage, and motivation Wellness basics that make a real difference: rest, nutrition, movement, strength, and community This is more than a show about endingsits about becoming the woman who rises stronger, steadier, and clearer on the other side. About the Host: Lesa has spent over 25 years helping families through mediation and family law, always focused on protecting what matters mostyour kids and your peace of mind. Shes also a breast cancer survivor, wellness advocate, cowgirl at heart, and follower of Jesus who believes your hardest season can become your greatest comeback. If youre craving practical guidance, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about rebuilding life after 40, youre in the right place. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/ Language: en Genres: Education, Relationships, Self-Improvement, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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How to Find Joy Again After Divorce & Hard Seasons
Tuesday, 29 September, 2026
How to find joy again after divorce, loss, and major life changes—plus simple ways to rediscover yourself and create more joy every day.What happens when the roles that once defined you suddenly disappear?In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski sits down with attorney, law professor, and author SC Perot to talk about how to find joy again when life looks nothing like you expected.After her marriage ended and she stepped away from practicing law, SC found herself facing a profound identity shift. Long walks, a search for “good energy” music, and an unexpected love of Harry Styles became the beginning of something much bigger: a journey to understand what joy really is and how we can intentionally create more of it.SC shares the powerful question that emerged during that season: Who am I when I strip away my roles, relationships, career, and accomplishments?You'll also learn SC's four-part CAPS framework for joy: Cultivate, Adopt, Protect, and Spread. She explains how to notice your personal “joy profile,” why what brings you joy can change over time, and how noticing small moments of joy can train us to see more of them.We also explore comparison and jealousy—especially on social media—and SC's beautiful concept of “borrowed views”: allowing someone else's happiness to add beauty to your life instead of seeing it as evidence of what you're missing.If you're going through divorce, midlife change, grief, or simply wondering where you went in the middle of taking care of everyone else, this conversation is an invitation to start asking a different question:What brings me joy now?Because learning how to find joy again doesn't mean ignoring what's hard. It means remembering that hard things and beautiful things can exist at the same time.Timestamps:(00:00) Why we're talking about joy instead of divorce(03:00) SC's divorce, career change, and identity shift(07:00) Finding a new soundtrack for a new life(11:00) The unexpected Harry Styles journey(15:00) Who are you without your roles and accomplishments?(20:00) Why movement and music can help during hard seasons(25:00) Protecting the things that bring you joy(30:00) Childlike joy vs. childish behavior(34:00) The CAPS framework for finding joy(38:00) Cultivate: discovering your personal “joy profile”(43:00) Why what brings you joy can change(48:00) Learning to notice joy when it appears(52:00) Joy vs. forced gratitude(57:00) Adopt: jealousy, comparison, and social media(1:02:00) Finding “joy in the wild”(1:07:00) The powerful idea of “borrowed views”(1:12:00) Turning someone else's joy into joy for yourself(1:17:00) Protecting your joy from judgment(1:21:00) Spreading joy through generosity and kindness(1:24:00) Finding joy even when you're going through something hardKey Takeaways:Your identity is bigger than your roles. Divorce and major transitions can strip away familiar labels while creating an opportunity to rediscover who you are.Your “joy profile” can change. Something that brought you joy five years ago doesn't have to bring you joy today. Pay attention to what lights you up now.Notice joy in the wild. Sometimes we experience joy simply by witnessing someone else's happiness.Comparison doesn't have to steal your joy. SC's “borrowed views” concept offers another way to experience other people's happiness without making it mean something about your own life.Protect and spread joy. We can stop judging what brings ourselves and others happiness and intentionally add kindness, generosity, and light to the world.Guest Bio:SC Perot is an attorney, law professor, author, and speaker whose personal journey through divorce, career transition, and rediscovering joy inspired her book Styles of Joy. Her work explores how we cultivate, adopt, protect, and spread joy—and how paying attention to joy can change the way we experience even difficult seasons of life.Resource Links:Styles of Joy by SC Perot: https://www.scperot.com/book/OsteoStrong Minnesota:https://osteostrongmn.com/affiliate-referral-koski/Soberlink:https://www.soberlink.com/prove-sobriety/family-law?utm_source=affiliatelink&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=lesa-koski-affiliatelinkDisclosure: These are affiliate links, which means I may receive a commission if you purchase through them, at no additional cost to you.Tags/Keywords:how to find joy again, finding joy after divorce, joy after divorce, divorce recovery, life after divorce, rediscover yourself after divorce, women and divorce, women over 40, midlife women, midlife transition, finding yourself after divorce, identity after divorce, healing after divorce, divorce mindset, joy and happiness, cultivating joy, comparison and jealousy, social media comparison, Styles of Joy, S.C. Perrault, Harry Styles, CAPS framework, Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski
