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Finding Her Sparkle with Ami RankinAuthor: Ami Rankin
A Wellbeing & Emotional Intelligence Coach from Australia helping you to realise and live your full potential. It's time to get your sparkle back. Language: en Genres: Health & Fitness, Mental Health Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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😡 It's not about the housework 🤯 Why You Keep Fighting About the Same Things (And How to Actually Stop)
Tuesday, 5 May, 2026
You walk in the door. The bins weren't taken out, the kitchen's still a mess - within minutes you're in the same argument you've had a hundred times before. Going around in circles, both of you feeling attacked, nobody actually saying what they mean.Sound familiar? This episode is going to change how you communicate in your relationship.If you've ever wondered why you and your partner keep fighting about the same things, why you feel unheard no matter how many times you bring something up or why conversations about something small somehow always turn into something big, this is for you.The truth is, it was never about the bins or the messy kitchen.In this episode I'm walking you through how to move beyond 'story level' - the he said-she said, you did this-you didn't do that, and get to the feeling underneath. Because that's where the real conversation lives. That's where things actually change.What we cover:- Why we get stuck in the criticism-defensiveness cycle (and how to break it)- What "story level" is — and why it keeps you going in circles- Why naming the feeling underneath feels so uncomfortable (and why your brain avoids it)- The Feelings Wheel — your most important tool for understanding what you're actually feeling- Why anger is always an umbrella feeling — and what's hiding underneath it- Three questions to ask yourself before the conversation to get clear on what you actually need- How to communicate your feelings without it turning into an attack- Why your partner isn't a mind reader — and what to do about it- How having these conversations less, means connecting moreThis episode follows on from our episode on teaching children emotional intelligence - because you can't teach your kids something you haven't learned yourself. And so many of us were never taught this.We were told to stay strong, push through, don't make a fuss. So if having these conversations feels big and scary that's not a flaw in you, that's just what you were taught. And it's time to unlearn it.🎙️ If this resonated, share it with a friend or a partner who needs it - that's how this podcast reaches new people and I appreciate you more than you know.Follow Finding Her Sparkle so you don't miss next week... a very exciting new series is starting and you're going to want to be there from the beginning!If you're feeling like the mental load, overwhelm or disconnection in your relationships has become too much to carry on your own, my inbox is always open. Come find me on Instagram - @ami_rankin
