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Subtle Shifts with Jennifer DelliquadriAuthor: Jennifer Delliquadri
Always pushing, and yet still feeling overwhelmed? Subtle Shifts with Jennifer Delliquadri, a burnout recovery and prevention coach, is for high-achieving perfectionists who crave more balance, calm, and joy. Each week, Jennifer shares practical strategies, mindset shifts, and inspiring stories to help you set boundaries, reduce stress, and restore your energy, so you can thrive at work, at home, and within yourself without burning out. Grab your free Life Audit to start making subtle shifts today: https://subtle-shifts.kit.com/audit Language: en Genres: Education, Self-Improvement Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it |
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206. The Emotional Labor of Daughtering with Dr. Allison Alford
Wednesday, 11 February, 2026
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Allison Alford, social scientist and author of Good Daughtering, to talk about a word that stopped me in my tracks the first time I heard it: daughtering.Daughtering is the often invisible emotional, mental, and relational labor that adult daughters perform to keep families connected. It’s the planning, the emotional regulation, the phone calls, the checking in, the self-editing, the guilt, and the constant inner pressure to be a “good daughter”—often without realizing how much energy it’s actually costing us.If you’ve ever felt drained after interacting with your parents, struggled with guilt when you try to pull back, or wondered why loving your family can feel so exhausting, this conversation will resonate deeply.In our discussion, Dr. Alford and I explore:What daughtering really is and why it’s considered invisible laborWhy adult daughters often feel like they’re never doing enoughHow overfunctioning, people-pleasing, and perfectionism show up in family relationshipsWhy guilt is so common for women when they consider setting boundariesHow to create compassionate, flexible boundaries that protect relationships rather than damage themWhy awareness—not cutting people off—is the first powerful step toward changeWe also talk about how small, intentional shifts (not drastic moves or “no contact” ultimatums) can dramatically improve both your quality of life and your family dynamics over time.Dr. Alford’s book, Good Daughtering, is now available, and it goes far deeper into these ideas with practical exercises and reflections at the end of each chapter to help you right-size your daughtering in a way that feels aligned, sustainable, and honoring—to both you and your family.If you are a daughter, love a daughter, or are raising one, this episode is a powerful reminder: you are already a good daughter—and your work matters.
