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Author: Tessa Lloyd

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S05 E10: How to not lose yourself in a relationship and stay connected to your friends
Friday, 24 April, 2026

In this episode, I move beyond the “why” and get into the practical side of staying connected to your friends while you’re in a relationship. I talk through the real-life “how tos”, the small, tangible ways you can maintain your friendships even when your relationship feels intense, all-consuming, and naturally takes up a lot of your time and energy.I unpack the common patterns that can lead to friendships quietly slipping into the background, and share simple, realistic ways to stay intentional, from how you structure your time, to how you show up emotionally, to the choices you make in the moment when you’re pulled toward your partner.This episode is about finding a balance that actually works, where you can be deeply in love while still feeling connected to your friends, your identity, and your wider life. Because staying connected to your friendships isn’t something that takes away from your relationship, it’s something that helps support it.