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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, InfidelityAuthor: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
***Top 1.5% Global Podcast***Dear Betrayed,Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had?Dear Betrayer,Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over?Well, youre right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that youve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, No way! Thats okay. We understandHi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are...As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. Weve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift.Of course, we didnt see it that way at first and you probably dont either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we cant wait to share what weve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory!So, if youre ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like;Is there hope for our marriage?Can I fix all the damage Ive done?Can I ever trust again?Is true intimacy even possible?We will also do deep dives into the topics of:* Isolation* Guilt and Sham Language: en Genres: Christianity, Relationships, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture Contact email: Get it Feed URL: Get it iTunes ID: Get it Trailer: |
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177 | Beaches, Bikinis, and Boundaries: Real-time Vigilance After Sexual Betrayal
Monday, 28 September, 2026
Geography holds memory—and for couples healing from sexual betrayal, certain places can feel like emotional minefields. Eight years after Discovery Day, we returned to a beach tied to some of the most painful pre-D-Day memories of our marriage. We didn't go back to pretend the past never happened; we went to reclaim the ground. But stepping onto that sand meant facing the reality of the setting: the ocean breeze, the crowds, and women in bikinis walking right across our path. In earlier days, that scenario would have sparked silence, panic, hyper-vigilance, and quiet dread. Instead, we took an early morning walk and did something radically different—we talked through our vigilance plan out loud, in real time. In this episode, we share the raw, honest conversation we had on that shoreline and unpack a critical truth for couples in recovery: in the real world, simply seeing someone does not mean a husband has failed. Recovery isn't about avoiding sightlines—it’s about the choice that happens after the seeing. If you’ve ever dreaded a vacation, a summer trip, or just walking down a crowded street with your spouse, this episode will show you how to move from walking on eggshells (or seashells) to standing on solid, peaceful ground. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my! NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
