Filter Optional

Author: Filter Optional

Addiction Counselor Chico West and his wife Shannon lend their years of experience to listeners from all walks of life offering a unique perspective from both the filter (Shannon) and the no filter (Chico). Welcome to Filter Optional.
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Sorry Isn’t Enough: How to Apologize, Make Amends & Repair Relationships | #36
Tuesday, 21 July, 2026

In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West explore a question that can transform every relationship:What makes a real apology?Most of us know how to say "I'm sorry." But far fewer know how to take responsibility, repair the damage, and rebuild trust. Drawing from addiction recovery principles, personal stories, and insights from researchers like Brené Brown, Chico and Shannon unpack why apologies often fall flat and what it actually takes to make things right. Through honest conversations about marriage, friendships, parenting, and everyday conflict, they introduce a practical framework for moving beyond guilt and defensiveness toward accountability, healing, and deeper connection.Key Points- Why "I'm sorry" is often not enough to repair a relationship - The difference between apologies, responsibility, and making amends- How defensiveness keeps us from truly hearing the people we've hurt- Why adding "but..." can instantly undermine an apology- The role of accountability in rebuilding trust- Real-life examples of repairing friendships, marriage, and everyday conflicts- How recovery principles like "cleaning up your side of the street" apply to every relationship- Why modeling healthy apologies teaches emotional responsibility to your childrenTakeawayHealthy relationships aren't built on perfect behavior. They're built on the willingness to own our mistakes, repair the harm we've caused, and grow from the experience. A genuine apology isn't just about saying you're sorry. It's about taking responsibility and doing the work to restore trust.